Hello everyone, I am a new member on GS… i’v been coming here for a while…but finally decided to join yesterday!
Anyways,
I am just confused as to what to do!
The thing is that I recently got engaged just 2 months back and am not very frank with my fiance. Now, his graduation is coming up and my inlaws also invited me and my parents for the ceremony. I am not very comfortable with even talking to him let alone going to his graduation and meeting his friends what not! my parents think that I should go because it;s a big deal and blah blah. I could really use some help knowing how to just act around there. What I should do? Should I take a gift for him and what not?
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oh its a big day for him and it would be special having you there. awkwardness and allis natural, but graduation is one of those big events in life and it would be good for you gusy to have shared that occassion.
do take a gift for him. something personal , based on is interests, but something that he could still have years from now, as a gift from his fiance on one of his big days.
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That sort of depends on what background you fiancee is from. I mean most guys in my family are used to separate ways before wedding and wouldnot be hurt if their fiance didn't show up or presented them with the gift. Similarily i am used to this setup and therefore never talked with my husband or got in the same gathering where i suspected he might be present.(granted i already knew my husband before engagement as he was from a familiar background)
Having said that there are people who like to know the person a bit before marriage and their families dont mind. I am assuming since your in laws invited You along with your parents they fall in the later category so therefore take a present and just see how your fiancee behaves and mirror his manner. Or if you are the bold confident type just walk over, congradulate him and give him the present. Dont worry too much though, its norm to be a bit nervous, i bet anything he'd be thinking what to do as you are.
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definately go! hes ur fiance! not just someone u think u might like to get to know.....and def bring a present...if it were a big occasion for u ..wouldnt u expect him there w. a gift? i would !
also u need to get to know him better...ur gonna marry hiM!
if u feel awkward now how will u feel on wedding day? spend time together and the awkwardness will go away on its own.
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Awww :) It is completely ok to feel a bit uncomfy when you've only known him for a couple of months. But think of him as your friend and not "oh my god this is the guy who will be my husband faint " and you will be fine. It's his graduation you should definitely go!! And yes take a small gift or just flowers and balloons to congratulate him with :-) It is a start of a new relationship so it is OKAY to be nervous initially but let go of your fears he won't bite ya ;-) Well at least not right now ;-)