What should I do with this "busy" boy?

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Re: What should I do with this “busy” boy?

@star1234

A couple of months ago, my parents received a rishta from a family residing in the Mideast with a son working in NYC. They asked me my opinion and I said why not..lets meet this guy. So my parents and his parents decided that we should all come together (we live in Canada and so getting everyone in one place was kinda hard because of visas etc. ) they decided it was best we met at guys home in Middle East.
So my entire family takes time off to make this big trip and get there only to find out their son missed his flight because he got food poisoned. And then his boss found out he didn’t leave for his vacation so he called him back to work. I did not believe that for a second. We were all so upset but his parents were so apologetic and tried to assure my parents that he wasn’t lying and this was all true.
Anyways, my patents said they wouldn’t make any decision without meeting the guy and without me meeting him and my approval. So they were like ok cool he’ll definitely come to Canada to meet you.
Of course, he didn’t. He always said he was too busy and what not. But he kept in touch with my dad..regular phone calls/emails. Two weeks ago, my parents and I had to go to NY for some other work and asked him if he was okay to meet us. He said ok. We met and talked for a bit. He seemed really nice and he gave me the impression that he thought the same about me. The next day his parents called and said their son wanted to get to know me more. But I didn’t hear from him so I just emailed him. He replied back with a few questions and I replied right away with answrrs and some of my own questions about basic things like drinking and smoking. Now it’s been over a week since my last email. I know he’s seen it because he emailed my dad saying that he got my email but has been busy and what not.
I just can’t help to think that there is definitely something wrong. I keep thinking his parents are forcing him. Wouldn’t someone who was even a little interested take some initiative ever?!?! Am I wasting my time? Is he just avoiding the questions I asked? What do I do?

Either your parents are loaded or desperate - no disrespect intended. Who takes their daughter half way across the world to meet a guy? Have you guys never heard of Skype?

Even if you went and he flopped, most families would take that as an insult and never consider such a guy again. Your parents however took you again to his doorstep in NYC. The whole you needed to go to NYC for ‘some other work’ is hardly believable.

How else can an obedient, gutless desi son tell his parents and other ‘uncles/aunties’ he is simply not interested? He is making it quite clear. You guys keep pushing yourselves on this man.