HI guppies
i hv some questions and answer them as a newly married girl and a women who's son hs just got married!!!!!
1.who should take an initial to facilitate other party(saas or bahu)?
*If you are the Bahu, then you should initiate positivity and good relations between your Saas and yourself. If you are the Saas, same goes for you. Its an equal responsibility and no one person shares it more then the other. *
2.girl should do households for whole family(just in case of joint family)otherwise its her duty to do if noone at home
*I think she should try and help out as much as possible but it cant be where as soon as the Bahu comes into your home, you forget your daily routine and start depending on her like she is your maid. You should elect your own chores and responsibilities in the home but dont become a door mat. *
3.what should be the level of independence for a girl after wedding?
*Come and go as you please, you dont have to explain yourself to anyone. It would be courteous if you told your Saas where you were going and when you will be back but not required. *
4.husband should listen to his wife or mom first and y?
*It depends on the situation. Husband now owes you his complete honesty and confidence so he should listen to you at all times. However, his mother is his mother so he has to give her a listening ear too. Should he DO what his mother says TO YOU? Absolutely NOT. *
5.WHAT is a perfect life for A married couple in ISLAM?i mean joint family or man should keep both seperate?
*Ideally, we all like to live separately. However, in some cases thats not possible or right. In those cases, do your best to establish a separate territory in the house for yourself like your own bedroom or whatever but try to interact as much as possible. *
hope to see interesting and worthy replies tht would help many....including me
thanku
*There are no guaranteed right or wrong answers to these questions for everyone...you have to tailor your life according to what is best for you and your spouse. *