Ok this is a complicated scenario. My friend’s family and one of her khala’s families totally do not get along. They have hardly been speaking for the past five years. Now her khala’s daughter Nosheen had her nikkah while away in Pakistan to one of her khala’s sons. After the nikkah things started getting better between my friend’s family and her khala’s family, as they decided to let bygones be bygones and take joy in the happiness of the family. Then after a while, Nosheen’s jaith Ahmed expressed interest in marrying my friend Beenish. Beenish had met him last year on vacation to Pakistan and expressed interest in him to another one of her khala’s who is unmarried and basically the go-to person in the family with all problems and such. The thing is, Beenish and Ahmed started secretly communicating by phone and he told her that both Nosheen’s parents and her older khala called him daily to convince him not to marry her, that she’s a bad person, has affairs (which isn’t true), has bad manners and overall bad character. This was all done because Nosheen’s parents and her older khala are afraid that Beenish might tell her in-laws that Nosheen herself was quite popular here, and not in a good way… so they’re trying to save her reputation while unfairly destroying Beenish’s. Beenish’s mom spoke to him several times and he assured her that he would convince the whole family for this marriage. Recently, there was a family fight in which Beenish told her older khala that she knew about the family plotting against her and maligning her name in order to stop this rishta from occurring, although she had promised Ahmed she wouldn’t ever tell the family that he was telling her all the secrets, but in a fit of anger she did so anyway. He found out and told her that he would call her in a few days and let her know what his decision was.
It’s been a month now, and still no answer. His family hasn’t called her parents even once to discuss this, and basically tehy are cut off from the family now. I think her parents should call and ask them what their problem was or at least give them an earful, but they are worried that it would tarnish their reputation even more… tehy would feel as if they’re begging for the rishta. Do you think it’s worse for them to stay quiet and not do anything… then they would all think tehy could keep taking advantage of their family and never fight back, or do you think they should call them again but face this news flying all throughout the khandan again?