What puts off Asian men?

[Hoverer]

Re: What puts off Asian men?

@Iconoclast

You have rightly pointed out it’s the women who assume, a man wants these things. Most will try to tell the guy that’s what they need in a wife, without knowing what the guy wants.

OP, you need to cast your net wide. Its a huge issue for females who have limited themselves to work. I have a very pretty senior, who committed herself to work, never got herself enough time to socialize outside hospital and now she is 50 and single.

I hear what you’re saying. If I continue to stick with the traditional way of finding a rishta, I’m trying to measure up to the requirements of the guy’s family and not him.
I need to change this. I think of course I’ve known this, but maybe I’ve been lying to myself because change is scary, and nobody wants to feel unwanted.

I do love my work, and it’s a big part of my life - I spend a lot of hours at the hospital, as I’m sure you do too! But I definitely do not want work to be the only thing in my life, it isn’t ALL that I am. I most definitely do not want to be the eccentric (speciality considered eccentric already!), old cat lady a few years down the line.

So, fabulous people of Gupshup, where shall I start? Any particular sites or apps? Personal experience stories greatly appreciated.