You have rightly pointed out it’s the women who assume, a man wants these things. Most will try to tell the guy that’s what they need in a wife, without knowing what the guy wants.
OP, you need to cast your net wide. Its a huge issue for females who have limited themselves to work. I have a very pretty senior, who committed herself to work, never got herself enough time to socialize outside hospital and now she is 50 and single.