What puts off Asian men?

[Iconoclast]

Re: What puts off Asian men?

@Hoverer

I hear what you’re saying. If I continue to stick with the traditional way of finding a rishta, I’m trying to measure up to the requirements of the guy’s family and not him.
I need to change this. I think of course I’ve known this, but maybe I’ve been lying to myself because change is scary, and nobody wants to feel unwanted.

I do love my work, and it’s a big part of my life - I spend a lot of hours at the hospital, as I’m sure you do too! But I definitely do not want work to be the only thing in my life, it isn’t ALL that I am. I most definitely do not want to be the eccentric (speciality considered eccentric already!), old cat lady a few years down the line.

So, fabulous people of Gupshup, where shall I start? Any particular sites or apps? Personal experience stories greatly appreciated.

You would like to be at places where your chances of meeting your desired demographics are highest. I would say, it would be activities related to Cricker, Mosque, Charity, Political or quasi-Political gatherings. Patient support groups are another great way. Social events/gatherings with others in community, even if they are married. They can always help you meet other potentials.
Being in medicine is double edged sword, it makes it easy make connections, but, at same time, after a while most will like you to see their Phuphi/Chachi/Mami or get speed up an appointment for MRI or a speciality. Specially the way NHS is these days.

Dating/matrimonial sites, I have no experience of, but, what I have heard from others is that it needs its own skills and if you cannot market yourself properly, it can be a major blow to your confidence.

For the people who need their personality to show, real world meet ups are much better.