…being suspicious in any relationship?
do you agree that attributed and perceived suspicion is only self perpertual?
share your thoughts on this, and possibly its come-backs (solutions)?
best,
Dushwari
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it is to a very big extent self perpetual, why i say dat is that when u get into relationship what comes wid dat is insecurity and specially if u know ur significant other had a past u tend to doubt it may happen again, so it is the other persons duty to come out clean by making it clear,
But one thing i was told by an elder last year was "BETA ISS RISHTAY MEIN SHAQ KO PEDA MAT HONAY DENA, ISS SHAQ KEE WAJAH SEY BARAY RISHTAY TABAH HUAY HAIN" but in reality u don have control over it. Hope it makes sense.
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Correct, Dushwari, but once you get into a relationship and things start happening you may not necessarily have the ability to stop yourself feeling that way!
Re: WHAT purpose will it serve?
it serves no purpose other than to make you miserable. its better to save yourself and your partner the hassle and fall-out from future recriminations, and just sit down and communicate.
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...being suspicious in any relationship? do you agree that attributed and perceived suspicion is only self perpertual? share your thoughts on this, and possibly its come-backs (solutions)?
best, Dushwari
self perpetual unless u actually see things that areobviously worth suspicion :)
solution is communication, understanding and security.
Re: WHAT purpose will it serve?
it is to a very big extent self perpetual, why i say dat is that when u get into relationship what comes wid dat is insecurity and specially if u know ur significant other had a past u tend to doubt it may happen again, so it is the other persons duty to come out clean by making it clear,
But one thing i was told by an elder last year was "BETA ISS RISHTAY MEIN SHAQ KO PEDA MAT HONAY DENA, ISS SHAQ KEE WAJAH SEY BARAY RISHTAY TABAH HUAY HAIN" but in reality u don have control over it. Hope it makes sense.
thats true...
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Fraudia bhai, this is absolutely true, i wish everyone was as perceptive as you stated. :>
thanks,
Dushwari
self perpetual unless u actually see things that areobviously worth suspicion :) solution is communication, understanding and security.
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yeah if u communicate properly n tell ur other better-half that your going out on a date with ur cute n caring colleague then he/she have no reason to be suspicious of you. be truthful, straight forward and as secure as u can be [cricket kit doern’t protect much anymore 
:halo:]
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^ Yup, key is honesty... and with any luck, that date will realize shes going out witht eh lesser half of the relation**** :D
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date is blonde so no worries about her realizing anything 
