Re: What kept you from messing up when u were teen
Mom and dad's prayers..mama's amazing intuition. She almost always saw through my plans even at the planning stage..As a teen I had bad company, I fairly got influenced too but I thank Allah for preventing me from big mess-ups. :)
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**parents ki tarbeeyat + fear of how I will face Allah on judgment day + fear of disappointing my parents = llxxll’s boring sa childhood :hinna: 
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logic
everything has its consequences and i evaluated if these were consequences I could live with.
Now the decisions were not always those that would get parental seal of approval, but it prevented me from messing up in a sense that I did not have to face consequences then or in future that I would regret.
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He is asking about rebellious years meaning early teenage years. If as a teenager you knew there is such thing called logic and could weigh the consequences of your actions then I admire and salute you.
There is only one simple logic at play in those years wrong actions=abba ka danda ya amma key jotian.
Teenagers defy all logic. Raging Hormones are the only thing which drives them and abba ka danda ya amma key jotian (not literally but you know what I mean) act as brakes on those raging hormones.
In US it is very difficult to deal with rebellious teenagers , because abba ka danda and amma key jotian cannot be used as deterrents but there are other deterrents as effective as abba ka danda ya amma key jotian.
Religion , logic , morals are at the back burners at that age. Yes when we pass those years then we give credence to religion , logic , morals , society , norms etc.
At least that is what I think and felt as a teenager and now as a parent.
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Currently both.
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**Man bap ke be panah aytmad ju unih mujh per tha, aur azadi-e-izhar ne ** 
Ya shaid apny standard ka chance hi nahi mila:( Warna mess up kerny ka shoq bhi pura ker liya hota:D
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Mirch- we were taught responsibility from an early age, and with that comes maturity. I think since grade 6 I have essentially been responsible for my own clothing and shoes, cleaning my room, all that. I had teenage years very different than most. I stayed at my grandfathers house mostly from 14-16, finished high school/inter 3 months before I turned 16, and was US all by myself in college before I was 17, moved out of dorms and into a fraternity house a week after I turned 17. I had access to, and freedom to do almost anything at that time.
Note, I did not say religion, morals I just said logic helped me make decisions to avoid things with consequences I was not willing to face. That does not mean I followed things that were in line with religious teachings or morals that I was taught. I questioned much of it, and did not always find satisfactory answers, and even now as much as I love and respect my parents and as close as we are, there are some differences in our way of thinking and our views. We have had discussions on the divergent views, and in most cases they have been very intellectual discussions, but not in all cases.
My Dad's once advise to me was along the lines of, I think I have taught you well to make the right decisions for yourself. That was true, very much so, but he knew more than me that while he had given me the tools to make rational decisions, the 'yourself' portion freed me to be who I would be, and that would not always be the same as what he wants me to be. I was never really forced to be anything or do anything, except when it came to studies, I did not have much to rebel against. To be inquisitive and to be on a divergent path was more of trying to be me, than rebelling against anything.
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bachpan/larkpan se hi aap itny logical waqya hoey hain
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Main nay pahlay he bohat kichai kar dee hay, hazrat ka jawab bhee mulihiza kar lain.
Lagta hay bachpan say burhapay main direct dakhil ho ga-a thay pir sahib. Jawani aa-e nahi shayed. 
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Mirch- we were taught responsibility from an early age, and with that comes maturity. I think since grade 6 I have essentially been responsible for my own clothing and shoes, cleaning my room, all that. I had teenage years very different than most. I stayed at my grandfathers house mostly from 14-16, finished high school/inter 3 months before I turned 16, and was US all by myself in college before I was 17, moved out of dorms and into a fraternity house a week after I turned 17. I had access to, and freedom to do almost anything at that time.
Note, I did not say religion, morals I just said logic helped me make decisions to avoid things with consequences I was not willing to face. That does not mean I followed things that were in line with religious teachings or morals that I was taught. I questioned much of it, and did not always find satisfactory answers, and even now as much as I love and respect my parents and as close as we are, there are some differences in our way of thinking and our views. We have had discussions on the divergent views, and in most cases they have been very intellectual discussions, but not in all cases.
My Dad's once advise to me was along the lines of, I think I have taught you well to make the right decisions for yourself. That was true, very much so, but he knew more than me that while he had given me the tools to make rational decisions, the 'yourself' portion freed me to be who I would be, and that would not always be the same as what he wants me to be. I was never really forced to be anything or do anything, except when it came to studies, I did not have much to rebel against. To be inquisitive and to be on a divergent path was more of trying to be me, than rebelling against anything.
I remember one dialogue form one bollywood movie "Gharib ka baccha , bachpan say direct burhapay main dakhil ho jata hay , jawani aatee hee nahi bicharay per"
aap gharib toh na thay magar Lagta hay kuch aisa hee ho-a hay aap k sath. :D
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Main ny sachey dill se tareef ki hai TANZ nahi fermaiya tumhari trha:smilestar:
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mirch jalta hai na...naam bhi mirch issi liye hay, jal bhun raha hay, seenay par saamp lot rahay hain, kya karain majboor hai apni fitrat say yeh.. mirch.
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logic
everything has its consequences and i evaluated if these were consequences I could live with. Now the decisions were not always those that would get parental seal of approval, but it prevented me from messing up in a sense that I did not have to face consequences then or in future that I would regret.
*I want to add ke agar main soch samjh ke aur koi achey andaz main likhny wali hoti tu shai dmera jwab bhi kuch is qisam ka hoa:)
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Mian nay bhee salute he kia hay magar bghair Ismailee wala aur wo bhee angraizee main.
“If as a teenager you knew there is such thing called logic and could weigh the consequences of your actions then I admire and salute you.”
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I remember one dialogue form one bollywood movie "Gharib ka baccha , bachpan say direct burhapay main dakhil ho jata hay , jawani aatee hee nahi bicharay per"
aap gharib toh na thay magar Lagta hay kuch aisa hee ho-a hay aap k sath. :D
I am not going to go in details of my exploits and adventures from 16 to 26 here. Lets just say a stereotypical desi bad boy would be considered an angel in comparison by the desi folks. But as talk talk and dr alban said..'its my life'
find your tharak ka chaska elsewhere bhai jan :D
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Yeh sab khubian hain is main tu Phir tu Bichu nam rakhna chahey th aisey :D
mirch jalta hai na...naam bhi mirch issi liye hay, jal bhun raha hay, seenay par saamp lot rahay hain, kya karain majboor hai apni fitrat say yeh.. mirch.
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*I want to add ke agar main soch samjh ke aur koi achey andaz main likhny wali hoti tu shai dmera jwab bhi kuch is qisam ka hoa:) *
shukriya janab,
and now lets return to the thread, mirch nay satya naas car diya tangent par lay ja kar :)