…Id like to get some opinions on what you all think about this : 2 brides on the same day…can have seperate stages or share one, the grooms are brothers in this case…it could be that the brides are sisters too…either or
This came up when I was talking with an old friend of mine and she feels strongly that the more low key (less $ spent, showing off) the wedding the more barkat it has… So, is it considered israaf to want to have your own day and not save money with this if its an option? What are the pros and cons?
Has anyone been to wedding like this or had one themselves?
I personally would never want to do that. My wedding will be MY day, the only time in my life I can have the attention on me and my love, and I wouldn't want to share that with anyone.
I went to a wedding like this when I was young, my two chachus got married at the same time. I guess it is helpful because you have everyone there anyway, and it saves costs, but I personally wouldn't want that for myself.
I feel like it is something more likely to happen with arranged marriages, like "we have two sons close in age, let's get them married off at the time time".
my mamoons were married this way; i think it caused unnecessary tensions beween their wives (especially since both then moved to the same house). it could be they would never have been very close, as they are both nice but very different women.
i think the problem is also that in pak society there is such a tendency to comment and compare people openly. this will make brides sensitive and strain the relationship.
I got married like this, both me and my sis got married on the same day, we both looked good, and have never ever had anyone say to us(on our face) that one of us looked better than the other…
we were both happy to be marrying the guys of our dreams and hadn’t really mapped out or planned the dream wedding like girls do now, it was 10 years ago,
we went to Pakistan to get married, so it definitely saved my dad a bundle, i don’t know how happy our in-laws were with the situation, but we were both content, and i have never given it a second thought until now…
Maybe i feel this way because i got married the same day as my sister,i probably would have hated if my hubby’s brother had got married the same day.
I do agree with your friend, the less money spent in a nikkah the better. But I would rather invite less people, only relatives and close friends and have my own day than to have a HUGE wedding with another bride. It also takes care of the unnecessary competitions as Sahar mentioned and people who wanna be there, WILL be there.
i heard its a bad omen...2 brothers or sisters wedding shouldnt have held same day....
if both married same day one couple stays happy and one couple has problems
Two of my cousins are getting married this summer in Toronto - they are brother & sister & they are having separate weddings three weeks apart. Its tough for family because we have to make two trips so close together (my parents will drive there, but I have to fly there for each one & so do many other family members). I know that some of our family are choosing to attend only only one of the two wedding because of this (they are coming from California or Texas & can't take so much time off work). I can understand why the brides want their own events, but it must be so expensive for the parents. I'm not sure why they picked dates so close together in this case though.
i heard its a bad omen...2 brothers or sisters wedding shouldnt have held same day....
if both married same day one couple stays happy and one couple has problems
I do agree with your friend, the less money spent in a nikkah the better. But I would rather invite less people, only relatives and close friends and have my own day than to have a HUGE wedding with another bride. It also takes care of the unnecessary competitions as Sahar mentioned and people who wanna be there, WILL be there.
Yes, I do agree with Sahr and your opinion, that theres going to a competition, even if the brides dont feel it, as in the case of the other poster who said she got married with her sister...theres always going be comments floating around.
I have read on here somewhere that two sisters should never get married on the same day because fo the bad omen thing..but not hte two brothers or a brother and sister.
I dont know, I would really HATE the idea of another bride. More power to the girls that can do it, but I would hate to share the spotlight on my day day.
