Re: gupguppy
Dear Gupguppy,
Salam urz hey,
Do you know there are houqouq allah and houqouq ebad.
All the sins which are concerned with houqouq allah, for example not praying ,not keeping some rozas etc are under houqouq allah heading. If we ask him for forgiveness ,be hopeful, that inshallah he would forgive. Are you happy now.
But such sins, like killing some one's son, steeling some one's property, hurting some one's heart, deceving some one, back biting etc etc come under other heading concerning other human beings.
Such sins would only be first forgiven by the concerned person; after that person forgives then if you ask forgiveness from God; you can hope for forgiveness;otherwise he(GOD) would not forgive until, the murderer or the thief is forgiven by the person's father, mother and family members of that family or person against whom the sin is committed.
Regarding guhunahe kaberas. It is written that they are guhnahe kabiras due to having difference between these kinds of sins and small sins. Also the punishments are different, and huge for guhnahe kaberas.
For a murderer, for a Zani, for a sharab drinker etc etc, are not committed by chance, due to just mere carelessness.
These sins one plans and takes his time to do. They get enough time to realize that these are guhnahe kaberas and the punishment of these sins is great , they are not going to be forgiven by GOD, as there was time to revert back from doing such sins. So, if some one commits such sin, they are most of the time delibrate., as they decide to do that sin, instead of stopping themselves from that sin. One chooses to commit that sin . So GOD does not forgive.
But, if by chance, some one has been killed some one unintentionally and the family members of that person has forgiven him or they have agreed to take khoun baha, then, now the murderer would pray to GOD for forgiveness and would hope for getting forgiveness.
If our sheikhs bother themselves ,and take pain as being sincere with the muslims around them and regularly explain it in khudbas ,every body would know the right things. But alas. Bye sokoon