Hey everyone, I want to know what you think is the best part of being married, especially the first few years.
Is it having a new best friend? Getting to know each other? The dawats? The nice clothes? The emotional connection?
Please share…
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Emotional connection for sure. My husband and I were seeing each other since 6 years, we were best friends since high school but nothing can compare to the emotional attachment which marriage brought along for us with a sense of maturity, responsibility and endless care for each other. I can say that because I have something to compare it to such as the boyfriend/girlfriend phase vs. the husband/wife relationship. The latter is far more special than I can explain in words. He was my bestest friend before and he still is but that part where he's all mine and I can depend on him in every way because now he's my life partner was not there until our nikkah happened.
Re: What is the best part of the first few years of marriage?
Emotional connection for sure. My husband and I were seeing each other since 6 years, we were best friends since high school but nothing can compare to the emotional attachment which marriage brought along for us with a sense of maturity, responsibility and endless care for each other. I can say that because I have something to compare it to such as the boyfriend/girlfriend phase vs. the husband/wife relationship. The latter is far more special than I can explain in words. He was my bestest friend before and he still is but that part where he's all mine and I can depend on him in every way because now he's my life partner was not there until our nikkah happened.
I agree with Shay - you have this amazing person in your life who you love more than anything in the world Alhumdullilah and you know you will be with them forever. The mental, physical and emotional connection between you two is just beyond words.
Dawats, wearing your jahez kaprey is nothing compared to being with the person whom you love. Alhumdullilah!
Well said Shay - I couldnt agree with you more and I feel the same way about hubby! Just so crazy about him.
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mashaALLAH both of u r lucky .... wish u have these feelingz n blessing forever n ever...
n i think
kaprey
jewllery
liberty
araam
ghoomna phirna ;)
n
after that babiez ;)
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omg i TOTALLyyyy agree with shay
iam only nikkafied so far and my hubbie use to be my cozn and gud freind.. but now since i have gotten nikka my emotions towards him has completly changed. its like hes the ONLY one Aallh has made for me and vise versa. i cant imagine doing anything without asking him or widout him knowing. and the bond we share wid eachother is somthing u cntt imagine sharing with anyone else.. its a beautifulll feeling and i thank Allah wid all my heart to have blessed me with my hubbie :D:D:d i miss him now :(
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sex
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^hahaha. I agree with everything above!
Though Ive gotta add you you're never more appreciative of your spouse until ur put in a traumatic or tough situation and he/she is there to support you, look after you and care for you. Me and my husband have been married about 8 months, we're always joking and playing around with each other and then I was going thru something difficult today and after it was over I looked at him and said to him, today for the first time I feel like I have a husband, not only a friend.
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The life u build with ur spouse, the struggles you both go through just to "settle" down....its frustrating and its hard, but once u actuallY DO settle down or whatever, that life u build together is so much sweeter than, say, going into a ready-made home..
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^I totally agree with that Sara. I hear about how my parents struggled together to provide for their family and build a home, and according to them, nothing can compare to the emotional bonding of that period when your emotional suport is your spouse and you're so dependant on each other. It's not to say that marrying into a rich home where everything is paid for you or you can just fly away wherever whenever you want isn't nice but from what I hear, there's something special about the struggles a couple goes through because then it always remains special to them vs. getting everything on the platter.
^hahaha. I agree with everything above!
Though Ive gotta add you you're never more appreciative of your spouse until ur put in a traumatic or tough situation and he/she is there to support you, look after you and care for you. Me and my husband have been married about 8 months, we're always joking and playing around with each other and then I was going thru something difficult today and after it was over I looked at him and, today for the first time I feel like I have a husband, not only a friend.
That's so sweet, mashallah! May Allah swt always keep you both like that.
You know when alot of mothers say how they love their baby so much because they get unconditional love from them.. I think it's the same with spouses (atleast most of them). They love you so much and they are always there for you- you know you have someone to lean on.
^I totally agree with that Sara. I hear about how my parents struggled together to provide for their family and build a home, and according to them, nothing can compare to the emotional bonding of that period when your emotional suport is your spouse and you're so dependant on each other. It's not to say that marrying into a rich home where everything is paid for you or you can just fly away wherever whenever you want isn't nice but from what I hear, there's something special about the struggles a couple goes through because then it always remains special to them vs. getting everything on the platter.
yes, exactly..u put it better than I did..it's not to say those relationships with rich spouses are lacking anything...everyone has their struggles, if not financial then otherwise but for someone who is in a less-than-ideal situation or have hit bad luck, its hard when you see everyone around you thriving. and if the couple isn't strong enough, it can take a heavy toll. So i guess my point was to give hope to anyone who may be in that same situation......
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for me another element is both families gettin on well, it gives an extra element of peace to the relationship between man and wife
sex
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On a lighter note, how about the freedom to be out as late as you want with your husband as opposed to having a curfew imposed by your parents! :)
sex
;) mmmmmmmm.....
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Oooh it just occurred to me
NOT having to worry about what makeup parlour to go to, stressing out over wedding invites whether to ask for cahs or not, what centerpieces, what color lengha, real jewelery vs artificial etc etc.
:D
hmmm.... Well I am not married yet, so cannot put my experience her. But let me try to feel it and imagine it......
1- The feeling of being committed to a person would be great.
2- Emotional and physical connection/attachment would be awesome.
3- I feel its a very Sacred relationship, so everything related to it, either your sincerity or loyalty or understanding responsibilites those are due on your part and carrying them out, or just trying to being a good friend/partner for good and bad n thru thick and thin, dont let each other feel alone, would be a great feeling of satisfaction and internal peace for my personality.
4- The romance part... as in flirting and having funny clueless discussions (kind of best part)
5- the Kids .. OF COURSE - Being a parent is itself a great thing.
6- The realisation of the fact that yes now I have someone I can call my own. I belong to him, he belongs to me.
7- I would even enjoy if he is a bit possessive about me.
8- and oh yes... The concept of MY HOME SWEET HOME and MY FAMILY.
9- I myself am a very caring person, but I know it would be a great feeling if I get some carings and concern too in return. That will only help me becoming a more better partner for him.
10- the other relations that are formed automatically as soon as you tie the knot, sign the Nikaah papers i.e. You become a Wife, Baahu, Bhabhi, Chachi, Mumaani, etc. I ll just love all this.
11- The Mrs. prefix with your name.. :)
guess thats it. But above is only IF I found the right person for myself. Someone who understands me as well. If I found him in my life, above all wont be limited to first five years but its going to be there for ever and ever.
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^awww how cute.
i remember a couple of months after i got married, a guppan from here mailed me her wedding invitations and it was made out to mr. and mrs… oh god, it was the sweetest thing! prior to that, the only other time we got called mr. and mrs. was before the wedding when macy’s sent us our registry package.. my mom was outside and the mailman who knows us quite well handed it to her saying, package for mrs. R.. shocked look shay got married?? lol.. my mom was like, she’s not mrs. R yet! haha. but i have it saved because it was the kind of thing that got me all happy 
now i hear it alot of times especially when we have reservations at restaurants.. and it’s just as amusing also because we are both in our early 20s and it makes us feel like we are SO old!
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nice post fairy tale
On a lighter note, how about the freedom to be out as late as you want with your husband as opposed to having a curfew imposed by your parents! :)
Hahaha, I sooooooo agree!
You can go out gallivanting the world with your husband and come back as late as you want!!!
Means alot when you grew up in a restrictive environment.