Re: What is that?
Well if u dont have parents who are thinking about ur marriage cuz they want u to stay single untill ur 5 yrs younger bro wants to settle down and get married and they use u for that purpose, yaani ke they think u control him better and therefore its best for u to stay single and live with them untill he is married. In such a scenario, the girl is allowed to find her hubby herself as she doesnt have any other adults who will or can help her in that.
Remember that islam is flexible in different situations and that it is in an ideal scenraio that a girl can wait till her walis introduce her to a good match. If the walis are not even close to understanding islam, there is no use of handing over ur life to them!!!