**What is something that people do to spoil their kids? **
Give them everything they want .
**to be friends first and parents second **
or?
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I think you covered the main points...theres also watching them constantly while they're young. Even if you give up a nice family party or wedding, its the responsibility of the parent(s) to make sure their child is behaving appropriately and never to rely on others for this. Constant vigilance till age 5 or so is a requirement.
Encourage their silly behavior in social getherings.
This weekend I was at a dinner at somebody’s home and this 7 year old kid was driving everyone nuts with his “mature” jokes. He was talking like an adult and all his mama did was laugh like this -->:CareBear:.
No one was enjoying his jokes and we all tried to change the topic, then he started off with the kids. My daughter came up to me and whispered, “mom is that boy joking with us or is he serious?”
And all his mom did was laugh and say “oh my son is so funny.” 
She should have just taken him aside and asked him to hold off on his jokes until they were home 
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Yeah, she won’t be laughing when in a couple of years time, she is the butt of the ‘mature’ jokes… silly woman! I abhor parents who let their children run riot in public…
Spoiling your kids:
-giving into everything they demand… who is the parent… you or them???
-to treat them as friends - i think it’s good to be ‘on a level’ with your children once they grow older, so that they feel that they can trust you with anything and everything… but some people take it too far… you have to be consistant.. you can’t be their pal one minute, then the disciplinarian the next; it’s confusing for a child and there is no consistancy in that.
- not teaching them the value of money - my sister would buy her kids expensive toys and designer clothing over and over again… the same stuff most of the time… as they would lose it/break it/throw it away/leave it somewhere. It’s a never ending cycle, unless you teach your child that money does not grow on trees, and that they have to respect the things they receive, and feel fortunate enough to receive them. Also, i feel children should be rewarded with such luxuries, not just given to them for no reason. This is how it works in our house. If your relationship is based on material things, your children won’t have the chance to experience unconditional love…
Our job as parents is to prepare our children for how the world really works. In the real world, you don’t always get what you want. Children will be better able to deal with that as an adult if they’ve experienced it as a child.
Yep… i have military training… 
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Desi parents tend to baby their kids (my observation)
all the time "mera muna" - even if muna is 25 years old!
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Something that a lot of people forget but to get annoyed and angry with ones children is another way to make them spoilt.
We should show firmness without giving the impression that their misbehaviour is affecting us that way they are more likely to get bored of what they do.
Gr8 question.
Yeah agree giving them everything they want sure spoil them in some cases or in somewhat.
I don’t agree at all that be friends first and parents second spoil the kid. No not at all.
I would suggest be friends first then parent second. Or be friend always.
What mainly spoil kids is when they do something wrong and you don’t stop at all or laugh or encourage.
No matter what don’t let your kid to break your or common or important rules be very strict even in a gathering. If in gather take him her in any corner and warn him/her not in front of others. Agar phir bhi na manay to dhamki kay sub kay samnay pitai ho jaay gi agar baaz na aay to.
Lots of love also spoil kids. Sure give lots of love but be strict when it comes to rule and wrong and right things.
I don’t agree with I think NJgal that you can’t be friend and very next be parent. Yes you could whenerver he/she breaks rule. That way he/she will learn that even with or during friendship they can’t go outside limit. What you said is impossible as kids don’t know and make mistake.
Best thing to teach kid or stop him/her from spoiling is to tell right away that is wrong or bad or good.
But yeah you can do that in a polite and friendly manner. Like you both were laughing and having fun and he/she did a very bad thing like hit you in mazaq or khail or hurt you then You chaap a full hand naqsha of yours on his/her face. NO not that way you can tell that that is very wrong I didn’t like it and it hurt me with little bit anger or pain.
As by being kid they can make mistake and do wrong thing all of a sudden. That way he/she learn what he can do and what he can’t.
Love one kid a lot and ignore other also spoil a kid too + make some issues in that kid.
Something that a lot of people forget but to get annoyed and angry with ones children is another way to make them spoilt.
We should show firmness without giving the impression that their misbehaviour is affecting us that way they are more likely to get bored of what they do.
What NikSik said was extremely wrong behaviour from mom.
I think any lady could say pyar say to that kid beta yay baron kay mazaq hain aap abhi chotay ho.
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Show them Bollywood Thrash!
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Trying to be child's friend or the "cool parent."
Giving the child whatever he/she wants just to put an end to that annoying whining/crying.
Not applying consequences when the child misbehaves (this produces kids who feel no responsibility)
Over praising the kid. This can produce NASTY results. My mom once said that parents who over-praise their kids risk having arrogant children. Didn't believe it till I saw it. Praise should have a balance. It shouldn't be overdone and it shouldn't be underdone.
Believing their child is ALWAYS right and could do NO WRONG in a conflict. Parents need to listen to both sides of an argument and realize that their child might not be telling the truth.
Everything is handed on a silver platter or everything is done for the kids. Kids should be taught independence. They should have chores and be expected to do them.
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I hate it when some families come to our home,and their kids start all their naughty behaviours,and start jumping from here and there, and start taking things and throwing them here and there, and the only thing their parents do is that just once they say , beta don’t do like this, and then forget about it 
At that point, i feel if i was their parent, i would have caught them by neck
LOL. That would be very frustating. Aisay buchchay naheen maain qusoorwar hoti hain so better to hold their moms from the neck lol.
What you could do is the best thing to control those wild kids give them some toys to play. Those kind of kids may break toys too so keep some chea and broken or rejected toys in a bag and when they come give them to play with.
Lock your rooms give them toys where you want them to stay and say little bit sakhti to you kids that don’t move around just play here.
Keep as much as toys you can. The best way to keep them busy. If those are boys as I know boys are more naughtier then girls and have more energy so more cars and boyish toys.
Very simple to control kids. Those moms are not doing whatever they have to do.
They live their kid to grow up them selves as when we don’t do kaant chaant to poaday they grow wildly and kids are like that too. Maali is essential for poaday so is the mother to stop growing child like wild animal.
You can politely say buri baat is tarha naheen kartay. Bister pay naheen koodtay blah blah. Say dose thing in front of their parents. Try to explain things to your own kids infront of their parents. Next time they parents will think she doesn’t like those things so may ask kid not to do this.
Something that a lot of people forget but to get annoyed and angry with ones children is another way to make them spoilt.
We should show firmness without giving the impression that their misbehaviour is affecting us that way they are more likely to get bored of what they do.
Nop I don't agree with you Psyah brother about your last paragraph they start doing that more. Firmness doesn't help.
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interesting thread... right now I don't know anything on top of my head on how kids get spoiled... but will think about it...
I think ALL the above post has something that can be judged as "spoiled" or **"bad manners"
Some posts that say mom's don't stop them from doing whatever - is bad manners NOT spoiled.
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I think there is a difference between **spoiling a child **and allowing a kid with his wrong behavior.
Spoiling a child could mean - GIVING him/her the luxury of this world WITHOUT them having to "learn" or "EARN" it.
Bad Manners is when parents just don't bother teaching them what's right and what's wrong.
So that's why I don't know anyone on top of my head who is SPOILED. I know a few mom's who can correct the behavior of their kids...