What is Pakistani Shadi Experience really like?

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Re: What is Pakistani Shadi Experience really like?

@Siren

A lot of it was the two of us sitting down and talking out issues. A lot of it was independence with regards to schedule, etc. and more recently our fights have been over money (we are saving for a house…don’t ask. lol)
We didn’t really talk about hygiene or intimacy expectations. When you’re living together, not everything has to be explicitly communicated. These kind of things just happen and you fall into a routine. I’m not totally sure what you mean by “Limitations and Liberties on Social Dialogue”
@parisbynight, you’re absolutely right about the ego. It was often my friends vs. your friends, and my family vs. your family. Alhamdolillah we have now learned to balance our expectations and compromise on a lot of things that previously seemed oh-so-important.

I’m so glad that mash Allah you’ve balanced it all out.. But how did you? My husband is lazy he doesn’t mean bad I’m on the other hand active . even when I’m sick im quickly doing things that’ll make him feel happy?
So occasionally I burst because I feel I’m doing alot for his family..and he’s not. And I don’t want anyone even my family to feel it. A few times I politely pointed it to him because he told me im not doing enough.. I asked him why he does.he told me I’ve got an established relationship I told him he too needs to develop it since we’re married.
I’ve literally packed suitcases for my mother in law while she had tea while I had horrible period pain. I remember later I cried so much not because of packing but the pain was so horrible I couldn’t stand. But my mil never acknowledged. The day the jaithani came she stopped talking to me for some time.. Now alhumdillah it’s not as bad now but she’s favourite hands down and I’m learning to accept it.