What is Nikah Misyar?

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Re: What is Nikah Misyar?

@PyariCgudia

BTW, there is no proof that Islamically a misyar marriage is superior to a regular nikkah.

The best solution is marry when you’re financially and emotionally ready. And you’re ready to move in. Because once nikkah happens, you really need to start living together period.

It’s funny, because about 10 years ago, this was the fad: misyar. Get people married really young, they can’t financially sustain themselves. They’re not living together because girl is still in bloody high school sometimes. (Yeah, I knew girls who had this done to them when they hit 16, and thankfully many of them are still married to the same guy, but some are not). The maulvis here were (I heard this myself in many mosques and lectures) telling parents to pay the couples bills. Weddings were entirely paid by parents. Post-marriage costs, like all the girls clothes and jewelry and even educational costs, paid by parents. But the couple were able to enjoy the pleasures of marriage w/o responsibility.

After divorce rates shot up in this group of people, the maulvis now, interestingly, are into marriage counseling prior to marriage, and they take careful care now to discourage guys to marry if they’re not ready for it. They discourage girls to marry until they’ve connected more with their deen, and they are recommending girls now finish college before marriage. Same preachers.

Misyar is there, it’s available as an option, but it’s not superior in any way.

wow thanks a lot pyaricguida, you just told me everything I needed to know!

ok not a popular option with many people but frankly this sort of arrangement would suit me to a T.