What would you decide, would you chose the love of your life or your family?
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family
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LOL If i get married to that guy, he will be my family so yeh FAMILY he he
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^hehe i was thinking the same thing!
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I dont think you can replace ur family with one guy neither can you replace the guy with ur family, they have their own places. Make ur family like the guy.
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Everyone is interconnected. If the family cannot accept the guy/girl, there will be heartache later down the road. It's never just 1 decision, 1 or the other. In the end, many people are affected, and it's never without an amount of pain. Best thing, if possible, is for family and spouse to come to mutual affection.
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You should never choose between the 2. Both play very important roles in your life. Without one or the other your life will feel incomplete. If they love you then they will somehow try to work things out without putting you in the middle of it and they certainly shouldnt make you choose.
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i agree with the above statement...anything of excessive of bad.. should be able to balance realtionships.. both are unique and equally ( not sure islamically) imporant in their own way. like you can share some things with your mom and sister..but u can not to your better half.. like wise there are certain things i'd share with my husband but would not with my mom and sister...same goes with best friend vs. husband.
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..becasue its ur life ..u haev to command it ..
rather sitting there and to be directed by others
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Soo go for ur love ,
Ur Family thn really follow u by thmselves if they really love u
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I share everything with my hubby. . . way more than i share with my family.
I think it really depends on what kind of relationship you have with your family. . .
I wouldn't call it choosing between them if they both disliked each other (or one disliked the other) and you go with what you want. I think that's called choosing yourself. . .
In any case, i do think theyre both important. . and like someone said above, your hubby and your family. . . all one big family so i think at some point they will learn to get along. Or at least I hope they do :)
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i agree, love and family are two different categories. it all depends on the person, it might sound like a very easy decision to make when you're not in the situation but it's quite complicated...trust me :)
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Well we all go through different experiences! Some of us here haven't had a good relationships with our parents either they abused or never bothered listening to what we believe in.
In my particular case! I would chose family. The way my mother has showed her love i doubt it if any other mother would it [well atleast i like to believe that]. My mother is amazing i would let go of my life in less then a heart beat for her. My siblings the same way - I love them too much to hurt them. They look up to me i suppose to be the ideal sister and a follower for them. I would not want to start a new life or family with a guy on a grave of old relationships for years. Our parents were there for us when we could not even clean up after ourselves. Its our time now .........
If he truly love me he wont put me in this situation. Sometimes its best to let go yeah its a lot easier to type it here on gupshup. I know the feeling when everytime you breath in it feels as if your heart is bursting again and again and again.
we dont always get everything in life :~) there are somethings that we will get in life after this one.... well atleast i want to believe that...
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The basis of human relationships in Islam is that we all have rights over one another. Your parents have the right to be consulted about marriage, and, if you are female, they have the right to give their consent, but if the man is religious, then they do not have the right to withold consent. Although I guess that since we are talking about desis here it probably really doesn't matter what Islam has to say.
The husband has the right to expect obedience and understanding from his wife, and that both his and his wife's family will not interfere in their marital relationships.
If you choose one over the other you will end up resenting no matter who you choose. It is sad that these people are too selfish to sit down and try to work out a compromise.
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this is one of the most difficul questions that most desis' have to consider. and i don't think they ever really, truly reach an answer.
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as a woman i’ll live with husband and probably in laws after marriage, so his family willl be my family…so it is their consent that is more important to me that what my parents have to say on my decision.
i may have to choose btw my parents and my future husband for geographic reasons…and my choice is final: hubby cause he is my future:blush:…;while my parents are my past (raised me during childhood)
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If you are in a situation where u have to pick one, then somethings gotta give. Its your decision, you decide what you want for yourself or change the situation, nothings impossible.