One thing that always mystified me was how indirect people, esp desis, tend to be. I do understand when it’s done out of politeness and trying to be subtle and most of the time it is really appreciated but other times it’s just annoying and mystifying.
Examples:
A relative wanting to know something about me.
She goes “Oh I heard that you’re —”. Now I perfectly know that no such rumour is going around, but if it is, why not tell me who’s saying what?..so When I ask, “who said so?” I get “oh I just heard!”… um if someone told u something, why won’t u tell me who? If I want to know something about someone, I’ll ask them and if they say where did you hear that from, I’ll give em a straight answer, none of this “I heard from so and so” when I didn’t.
Another odd example is when we praise someone or more specifically, something, and it’s taken as a direct insult to something else???
Like, if I say someone’s wedding outfit looked nice, someone will jump in and say “Oh but your stuff was nice toO!” as if I’m evaluating the things i’m praising against my own personal standards? Um, I’m not a perfectionist or a competitive person, so I don’t see the sense in evaluating every single thing against my own personal standards, and I don’t think others should either. Tehn again maybe I am being that competitive person, when I say others shouldn’t be so competitive/perfectionists? Ok thats a whole other topic.
One last example I’ll give, and maybe i’m opening up a can of worms here, but here goes: when we have a question about anything related to religion, if the person does not know the answer, they go into the “well you should have faith and do it b/c we’re told to do so. End of discussion.” It’s simple, if you don’t know the answer, why not just say “I don’t know?” As far as I know, it’s not immoral to not know something, but simply writing inquiries off as “You should have faith, and not need to question”, just goes against gaining knowledge and education.
:pagli:
j/k