ok Here is the situation… A Friend of mine who lives in pakistan..recently got married to a girl in UK … n got his visa done n moving to the UK after this Eid… The problem is whenever I ask him about her wife he says she is fine… but Two days back He told me that he is not talking to her for the past 3 months I got so shocked … But I didn’t ask him what was the problem as I know he is very stuborn … Don’t share with me lots of things … But I did ask him to talk to her… whatever are the problems are just go ahead n discuss .. Keeping your mouth shut is not the soultion of any problem… He was telling me that he told everything his dad n his dad ask him not to talk to her for a while .. “Ho sakta hia ussay apni ghalati ka ehsas ho ja ay”
he also asked me “AGER MUJHAY MAIRI WIFE MUJHAY YEH EHSAAS DILAAY K USS NAY IHSAAN KIA HAY MUJH SAY SHAADI KER K TO MAIN KIA KEROON, MAIN NAY PYAAR SAY BOHET SAMJHAAYA THA USSAY NAHI MAANI GALT BAATAIN KERTI THI” As I didn’t ask him about the details or what exactly happened between them …
but what is soution of this problem near you ?? how should he react ??
Anyways I feel sometime so bad as I consider him a best friend of mine … but he doesn’t share things with me that much but I do share with him considering him my best friend.. My question is what is the level of Privacy between friends ??? should you not tell anything which is between you and family ?? I don’t get this
what do you think ??
Thanks!
Its obvious that he is trying to tell you and expect you to ask further. If you act like a Nunna Munna and not getting his hints than dont expect him to hand you over his biography or something
Its obvious that he is trying to tell you and expect you to ask further. If you act like a Nunna Munna and not getting his hints than dont expect him to hand you over his biography or something
Ask the guy. He wants you to ask him
He is very stuborn ... He said he can't tell me more than that
Nikka Kaka.....matters that are between a husband and wife should remain between a husband and wife. It's a sign of respect and it's a good thing that he isn't discussing it with you. It shows that he is a person of good character.
What if she said or did something that can ruin her reputation or make people thing low of her......she his his wife afterall....why would he want to make her look bad? Remember....relationships with friends do change after marriage when it comes to sharing things with friends.....he can't quite discuss personal matters with you anymore since it would be involving his wife and not just him now. I hope you understand what I'm saying.
The thing is, both families arranged this marriage. Both are equals.
The one who moves away from family needs a bit more of understanding from spouse regardless gender. There are lot of new challenges and demands to cope with. Now, knowing she isnt talking with her hubby.....well, its utterly stupid.
Wallahi, I dont understand the people of 2day. Its like crises are the core excuse to break up or start talaq proces, khuda na khasta. What was the idea behind getting married if people fail to undestand the abc of marriage and responsibilities?
Nobody seems to be willing to "fight" for each other. Giving up or giving the cold shoulder is too easy...... anybody can do that.
As his situation is, he should ask her directly whats its gonna be between them..... The longer they dont communicate, thus harder it is to reconcile or break the ice all over again.
She seems to be the "nadaan"...... The next stage living with label of divorcee wont be that easy as she might assume.
Going deep into husband/wife matters is a no-no among my friends, sure we can talk about major events in their life but getting into details is not a good idea.
Nikka Kaka.....matters that are between a husband and wife should remain between a husband and wife. It's a sign of respect and it's a good thing that he isn't discussing it with you. It shows that he is a person of good character.
What if she said or did something that can ruin her reputation or make people thing low of her......she his his wife afterall....why would he want to make her look bad? Remember....relationships with friends do change after marriage when it comes to sharing things with friends.....he can't quite discuss personal matters with you anymore since it would be involving his wife and not just him now. I hope you understand what I'm saying.
I agree with AE husband and wife's personal matters should not be disscussed among friends. And that doesn't mean you are not friends anymore just be friends and don't disscuss personal issues.
Hm, my idea of a best friend is someone who does share with you and vice versa. also, how can you fully help him if he wont tell you whats wrong? maybe you should tell him this, friends should be open with each other no?
As for his problem,he should really talk to his wife, communication is one of the most important things in any relationship!