I already stated that the extent of freedom and oppression varies from girl to girl and family to family. Your family may be more open to ideas when it comes to girls which is VERY ENCOURAGING. However, the examples from my family show the things expected of girls even in this modern age although my family is educated.
Actually this is a scale and each girl and family is placed on a particular point on that scale depending on their principles and ideologies. On this scale, one extreme is extremeley jaahil practaices and the other extreme is extremely liberal practices, the averag pakistani girl exists somewhere in between.
Remember that there are still marriages of girls with Quran in our rular areas, practices of Wani and honour killing still exist there etc. On the other extreme, there are extremely modern girls in Pakistan engaged in all sorts of liberal practices.
And I appreciate cutefifa that your family seems to be slightly towards the modern side of the scale despite keeping in the values and traditions.
The girls bred outside Pakistan are willing to know about average pakistani girls because they are compared to them a lot. So my criteria would allow them to know the restrictions which may be faced by many girls living in Pakistan. If a girl like you cutefifa is not facing much restriction, you are lucky.