What is an "average Pakistani girl"?

[Ashy2010]

Re: What is an “average Pakistani girl”?

@BarbieCue

Ashy2010, let me guess, you were not born nor bred in Pakistan and the last time you visited Pak was perhaps a decade ago, right? The criteria you’ve given is that of an oppressed girl, not an average Pakistan girl. There’s a big difference. Let’s compare an Afghani girl (living in Afghanistan) to a Pakistani girl… which one’s actually oppressed? … yeah.

Yes, I was not born n bred in Pakistan. But I still have female cousins there with whom I have been constantly in touch with. Following are the examples of my female cousins living in Pakistan:

1. Many of them are not allowed to do jobs (and if yes, only allowed to do jobs in schools);
2. Many were not asked about their marzi in marriage (my cousin who is my best friend also, had been literally crying before her marriage because the guy was very very dark complexioned, another cousin also did not like the guy she was going to get married - but now Alhamdo Lillah, they both are living happily with the guys chosen by their families - now whether they are truly happy or just compromising, only Allah knows the best);
3. Many are not allowed to go outside without their brothers who have the responsibility to drop and pick them to and from everywhere;
4. One cousin had to leave the job because his younger brother got a good job and he asked her to quit as he liked her to stay at home, so even younger brother has so much control over her
5. One cousin had to marry a guy 12 years older than her which she and her other sisters never liked (he was their family friends)
6. One cousin who was asked to move out of her in-laws house with her family after the birth of 4th daughter, and she was invited again to live with them after the birth of the son and my cousin had to do what she was asked to do.

There are many more examples in my family which shows such girls still exist in Pakistan. And my extended family is not lower class uneducated people. They are upper middle class well educated family.

Whatever criteria I had mentioned in my previous post, might or might not be present in every average girl living in Pakistan. But these things are usually expected of an average girl in Pakistan. Even my family expected me to adhere to some strict rules despite having being brought up outside Pakistan and even I feel pressured to meet the expectations of my family (like saying yes to a proposal even if I do not like it because there are examples in my family that in the end, girls live happily with the guys chosen by their families). Its just that there are not much restrictions on me (like I was allowed to go to UK for my higher studies which is considered a big NO NO for other girls in my extended family living in Pakistan).

So I am also an average pakistani girl living outside Pakistan but I have a little more freedom than my cousins living back home.

What I wanted to say is that an AVERAGE PAKISTANI GIRL IS REALLY AN OPPRESSED GIRL. Its just that the entext of oppression varies from girl to girl and family to family.