There was no such thing as gender roles and
What if getting married wasn’t a pre-requisite for parenthood? (of course I am referring to social norms…)
What if you could go and pick out a newborn from a nursery…any one you wanted…boy or girl…with blue, green, hazel or brown eyes…fair or dark skinned…whatever your heart desired…
How many of you would go out and become a father or mother right away???
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As much as I love children, now that I have them I realize how important both moms and dads are, and so unless I have a husband, I may not go that route. Again, this is not to say that single parents can’t do a good job raising their kids. But I don’t think I can take on that task without a partner.
But if there was no such thing as gender roles, I may think of that option 
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I think most people want their "own" child, not an adopted one (although I'm all for adoption, considering the world population and the light of abandoned children).
But I don't even like kids, so my views on parenthood are probably wrong.
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Read this:
These guys are pretty extreme followers of the no-gender roles movement…
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I would sooo love to pick a baby from the nursery.. I will take the first one that I will lay my eyes on!!! not picky at all!
without the husband.. nopse, at this point in my life, I dont think I can do it alone.. when I was single, I may have said who needs a guy to raise a baby or something like that but now I believe baby is the best thing that has ever happened to us, as a couple! cant even imagine a possibility of raising one without a husband/father figure for the baby that I can pick from the nursery in this scenario!!
gender roles.. not something thats set in stone in our house.. we do things as we can and as we please..we have never asked each other for something specific just because it's gender specific!!
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where are all the folks that give parenting advice without even being married?????
isn't this the perfect thread for them?
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It takes two to clap. well you can clap with one hand too but most of the time sound is not perfect.
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I’m not sure what you are asking …
but did you read about that couple in Toronto who are raising their children to be gender free …?
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^^ That's quite extreme.
Personally I don't think that makes any sense. Jeez. I am a woman whether I like it or not. I will have my period when I will and I have to use sanitary pads. I will have breasts and wear a bra. I will have PMS and get pregnant. What's there to hide? I can never understand these overly philosophical people who run from reality.
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yeah Mehnaz.....I came across that.......quite extreme for sure!
when I thought of this thread I was merely suggesting no gender qualification in terms of "how can you raise a girl without a mommy" or the typical "boys need a man in their lives".....
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As much as I wish with ALLLLLLLL of my heart that I had a baby...I would really want that baby to see a happy household and feel a father's presence in his/her life.
I want to adopt one day but will do it with a partner Inshallah.
As far as picking out a baby...its confusing to me...isn't the relationship between parent and child unconditional? What you get is what you get right? And the beauty of it is it doesn't matter what your baby looks like, you still love them. Am I right?
If I could have children I would have them. If I couldn't I would adopt but only after making sure I could give him/her the kind of life I would want.