I have a cousin/friend , whoz alwayz complaining to me about her husband/fiance( they’re nihakfied) who is not romantic at all …
every time I sign onto msn, I have to hear her crap about the guy, now I have tried telling her many things, but I m sick and tired of listening to her (sorry to be rude) but seriously everytime i sign in she is there with her dukh bharee dastaaney, someone please put your thoughts down i m running out of ideas on what to tell her..
:-/ u block her when she comes online?
tell her to keep trying.. he might turn romantic eventually..
this advice sucks.
hmmmmm.. whats the age difference like between the couple ?
sometimes if girl is young, and guy is NOT so young, and mature, settled into the field, HE wants to always talk about planning, where they wanna buy the house and stuff.. and girl would wanna hold the stars and share all the moonlight with him ..
gawd knows both are right at their places and time..
advice part: tell her that ALL GUYS are like that... let YOU TWO get together first.. and THEN see.. cuz NOT UNTIL they live together, from gifts or phones or chatting no1 can say u ARE romantic or u are NOT..
lol faizy knows everything 
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romance isnt important in realtionship…friendship is better than romance ..tell her that if he s a good friend to her, listen to her bakbak then be happy wid that ..
Tell her to go to Ajmeri Baba, Amil Syed Dilbar Zaidi or Peer Syed Sahib...They'll probably fix a potion for her...
THere was a thread recently about people having to change with marriage...anyway, some guys just arent romantic. and that's that. Trying to force the guy to change isnt right - who would want romance that is forced and not from the heart?! My husband is the most wonderful man, husband and father I could ever imagine but not one bit romantic! Its just how he is and I accept it. When I do get a complement or a rare bit of romance out of him, it means so much more because i know that it doesnt come easily to him. But if your friend cant accept how her guy is, maybe she needs a different guy?
Tell her to get rid of those Mills & Boons 'books'.
yes sometimes I have to block her 
but I feel bad too 
the age difference between the couple is about 6-7 years.. they are good friends but when it comes to romance he is not at all. and even some of the things that he says (he thinks they are romantic) but they arent at all. I think the problem here is that the girl was born and raised in America and the guy has lived all his life in Pakistan. And as much as I know about him, he is all about studies… Also, they are not living together yet, he is still in Pakistan. Faizy I hear you, this is what the problem is, they have a 6-7 yrz of age difference. And they both are going for different things But will it ever get better?
I dont think its the age difference really, more like where each grew up..If the guy had the typical Pakistani upbringing, then most likely he doesnt know where to begin, and lacks experience. Also not living together doesnt help either :-/ As far as it getting better..it really depends on the personality this guy has, maybe she can try to initiate something?
Try before you buy.... kids!!!!!!
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they are good friends but when it comes to romance he is not at all. and even some of the things that he says (he thinks they are romantic) but they arent at all.
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What is romantic to her or you? Are candle light dinners still in? Isn't that filmy, very filmy?
Fayz do me a favour and please start a new post on what is considered romantic. I could learn a thing or two.
I think it varies from person to person. I don’t know what’s romantic. Getting flowers … Is that really romantic? It’s nice, but is it romantic? What is romantic? I think a hot air balloon ride during sunset on a perfect day is romantic. Is it realistic. No. 
Actually, I think if there was genuine effort involved, then nearly anything can be romantic.
Am waiting for the new thread Fayz. 
from what I've heard - Pakistani guys are not romantic until after marriage. Don't know if there is any truth to that. But as you said there is a huge difference in their cultural upbringing and so maybe that thought might be of some comfort to her.
A person is romantic or not, it doesnt matter where he / she lives.
If someone is not romantic before marriage, then dont expect the person to become romantic afterwards.
Its all in the brain, some people might think that its 'haraam' or 'wrong' to show feelings towards their spouse, their future spouse or some might have other priorities, dunno, its mostly in their brain. You cannot change a person from today to tomorrow, and you cannot force someone to become romantic, with just a click.
Hi.
I also think its where u or ur husband grew up.
Like me im born here in Holland and my husband
in Pakistan and live there my husband was before
marriage romantic and everything but after marriage
he change's a lot.
Nilu.