What if your husband isn't attracted to you?

[Krypton]

Re: What if your husband isn't attracted to you?

Simple no nonsense tips here:

a) Eat half the amount of your hunger b) Eat Whole Foods - avoid processed food - avoid bread c) Do exercise d) Speak softly e) Wear perfume - brush teeth - give him coffee/tea f) At night ... stealthily touch him in places that make you blush

We'll see if that does not turn the situation around ... or up should I say ... :)

Then you can say AbraCadabra

BS

[Niksik]

Re: What if your husband isn’t attracted to you?

@AbraCadabra

This is in this forum for tips & help.

He has problems with your dressing, your skin, your style and overall looks. You have tried many different things and tried being like what he wants but still there is no appreciation or attraction from his end. For a drastic makeover, you need a lot of finances which are unavailable to you. What should you do? This is effecting your self esteem, you have done the talking bit as well.

The only solution you see is to fix the skin, weight, style, dressing and other things he dislikes. How can it be? What steps are needed … What is in/out? I mean western dressing-wise and what to buy in makeup as well?

Just ignore him. Meanwhile go workout and fix yourself up. Still ignore him. Feel good about yourself. Continue to ignore him. Khud theek ho jaye ga. What if the wife isn’t attracted to him. Is he some hunka hunka himself or some oily tidd wala . Sorry about the last part. I’m talking in general.

[TLK]

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BS

You meant Brilliant & Superb, right?

I agree.

[psyah]

Re: What if your husband isn’t attracted to you?

@Niksik

Just ignore him. Meanwhile go workout and fix yourself up. Still ignore him. Feel good about yourself. Continue to ignore him. Khud theek ho jaye ga. What if the wife isn’t attracted to him. Is he some hunka hunka himself or some oily tidd wala . Sorry about the last part. I’m talking in general.

Oily tidd wala

sounds like a baddy character in a children’s book

[AbraCadabra]

I'm glad that everyone is giving their input.

TLK you're right. I don't like bad mouthing him or hearing bad stuff about him. I've mentioned in my previous threads as well that he has many qualities for which I would try my best for.

It's the men's psyche overall. Attraction and looks matter a lot to them, it's difficult to move past it for many guys. He doesn't make my life miserable all the time. He supports me financially, makes me enjoy, takes me to every restaurant in town, gifts me nice stuff, does not pressurize me fr anything, always encourages me to talk to my family, and many more good things.

I wouldn't disagree there are really many tough times too. But nonetheless it is a relation I want to work on to my level best and I know that he is trying in his own way too.

Looks have been a problem for him. I didn't know till we got married, It's not like he doesn't think I'm pretty. He just feels I don't maintain myself, dress out of style and my outlook isn't up to the mark. Initially I was hurt and cried over it but gradually realized for men this is very important. Their physical relation bases on that as well. So it's understandable. I do want to work on everything and improve and if the. It doesn't change, I'll probably be facing him head on over it.

Also, when it comes to improving anything related to looks he isn't kanjoos, he tells me you can take money for getting new clothes, makeup, etc. just buy the right stuff that suits.

[TLK]

Re: What if your husband isn't attracted to you?

^ seems to me that you married a gem of a guy Abba. He may not be perfect but who amongst us is?

[Pseudonymous]

Re: What if your husband isn't attracted to you?

I'm glad that everyone is giving their input.

TLK you're right. I don't like bad mouthing him or hearing bad stuff about him. I've mentioned in my previous threads as well that he has many qualities for which I would try my best for.

It's the men's psyche overall. Attraction and looks matter a lot to them, it's difficult to move past it for many guys. He doesn't make my life miserable all the time. He supports me financially, makes me enjoy, takes me to every restaurant in town, gifts me nice stuff, does not pressurize me fr anything, always encourages me to talk to my family, and many more good things.

I wouldn't disagree there are really many tough times too. But nonetheless it is a relation I want to work on to my level best and I know that he is trying in his own way too.

Looks have been a problem for him. I didn't know till we got married, It's not like he doesn't think I'm pretty. He just feels I don't maintain myself, dress out of style and my outlook isn't up to the mark. Initially I was hurt and cried over it but gradually realized for men this is very important. Their physical relation bases on that as well. So it's understandable. I do want to work on everything and improve and if the. It doesn't change, I'll probably be facing him head on over it.

Also, when it comes to improving anything related to looks he isn't kanjoos, he tells me you can take money for getting new clothes, makeup, etc. just buy the right stuff that suits.

I think I may be the only one who hasn't checked out this thread until now. Would I be asking too much if I asked you to show a pic? It doesn't have to include your face but if I could see what the problem is (if there is any) I would be better able to help.

[AbraCadabra]

I am nt comfortable sharing my picture. I've already mentioned the problem areas.

I can give more detail though. My height is 5 feet 3 inches and my weight 64 kg, yup weight is more according to my height so I have joined a gym.

Skin is combination skin with an oily T zone and dry patches otherwise, scars and open pores are on cheeks and chin. Skin undertone is sort of golden beige. Not sure.

Dressing. I dress up well in eastern clothes but I don't know what looks good in western clothes. What combines with what to suit me. I broader at the hip area.

Makeup. What would look good on me, which shade is right for me, what combined with what would look good, which shades to go with which dress colour; all this is do need to know.

[Sanaabc]

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I had/have problematic skin too.. my ex dragged me to Sephora and later mac instead of making me feel **** about myself.. mind you, he only took me there because it was bothering ME. never once did I come across any douchebag who had a problem with my acne prone skin/scars on hands, let alone telling me how it turns them off.
Well, good for you thet hes offerinf you to pay for it, that makes up for everything. :k:

[Pseudonymous]

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@AbraCadabra

I am nt comfortable sharing my picture. I've already mentioned the problem areas.

I can give more detail though. My height is 5 feet 3 inches and my weight 64 kg, yup weight is more according to my height so I have joined a gym.

Skin is combination skin with an oily T zone and dry patches otherwise, scars and open pores are on cheeks and chin. Skin undertone is sort of golden beige. Not sure.

Dressing. I dress up well in eastern clothes but I don't know what looks good in western clothes. What combines with what to suit me. I broader at the hip area.

Makeup. What would look good on me, which shade is right for me, what combined with what would look good, which shades to go with which dress colour; all this is do need to know.

Would it help if I sent you my picture? just so you know i'm not a perverted old man. I really want to help, but it's difficult to help unless you've seen a picture.

[Hmmna]

Re: What if your husband isn't attracted to you?

^^ how can she be sure the pic is truly yours? Hmm

[Pseudonymous]

Re: What if your husband isn't attracted to you?

^Because there are a few others on this forum that know me, and many i'm sure who've seen my eye makeup pics...they'll know it's me.

[Hmmna]

Re: What if your husband isn't attracted to you?

Well it's for her to ascertain.

[Shak]

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@Pseudonymous

^Because there are a few others on this forum that know me, and many i'm sure who've seen my eye makeup pics...they'll know it's me.

So THIS is how we get Guppans pics, should have tried that all those years ago :p

[Pseudonymous]

Re: What if your husband isn't attracted to you?

^Haha!, you'd have to prove you're a female first :p