This is a very vague question, and I dont really know how to phrase it correctly, or how to word my thoughts.
Suppose you are a guy. And you like a girl. Not necessarily for the purpose of marrying her, but you know you like her. Crush sort of thing. And you want to get to know her better.
Now the problem is that the girl is really reserved and doesnt really talk to guys. Maybe she likes you too, but she herself doesnt know how to respond to you because of her limited experience with guys. She rebuffs all your advances to talk to her, knowingly or unknowingly.
Will you think she is ignoring you, and back off; or will you keep pursuing her?
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This is a very vague question, and I dont really know how to phrase it correctly, or how to word my thoughts. Suppose you are a guy. And you like a girl. Not necessarily for the purpose of marrying her, but you know you like her. Crush sort of thing. And you want to get to know her better. Now the problem is that the girl is really reserved and doesnt really talk to guys. Maybe she likes you too, but she herself doesnt know how to respond to you because of her limited experience with guys. She rebuffs all your advances to talk to her, knowingly or unknowingly. Will you think she is ignoring you, and back off; or will you keep pursuing her?
Yup..need an answer to that..and also...how long can a guy pursue... When does he finally gives up.... And does "okeyy ..yes...I will get back to u and she never gets back to you" counts as a friendly gesture....
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so you are the shy girl? Don't really know, haven't met a shy girl before. Go for it if you like him or tell him to back off. Stop playing games
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And does "okeyy ..yes...I will get back to u and she never gets back to you" counts as a friendly gesture....
Why would ANYONE see this as a friendly gesture? If a guy told you that he will get back to you and he never does....what would YOU think of him?
Go for it if you like him or tell him to back off. Stop playing games
^ This. Guys are humans to. It doesn't take extra experience or training to be able to talk to them. Its one thing not to be outgoing or super talkative with a guy b/c you're shy. But to totally rebuff his efforts to get to know you or saying you're going to get back to him and not doing it etc.....stuff like this will make most guys think you're playing a games. I have guy friends who have dealt with this behavior and when they talk about it, they don't have anything good to say about the girl.
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^ This. Guys are humans to. It doesn't take extra experience or training to be able to talk to them. Its one thing not to be outgoing or super talkative with a guy b/c you're shy. But to totally rebuff his efforts to get to know you or saying you're going to get back to him and not doing it etc.....stuff like this will make most guys think you're playing a games. I have guy friends who have dealt with this behavior and when they talk about it, they don't have anything good to say about the girl.
so you are the shy girl? Don't really know, haven't met a shy girl before. Go for it if you like him or tell him to back off. Stop playing games
Not exactly shy but most of my friends were girls, and I intend to keep it that way. But there was this cute guy in my university who showed obvious signs of interests but it involved more gestures than talking.
As far as playing with a guy is concerned, I wasnt playing with him at all. Wasnt looking for a relationship.
Not that I regret doing what I did, but I was thinking what if a similar situation arrives in the future. Like if you catch a guy staring at you all the time, and you like him too, how should you proceed?
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Just like finger prints, no two personalities are the same. Every guy would respond according to his personality. Some might give up, some may pursue a little longer, some might take it as a challenge etc etc.
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Like if you catch a guy staring at you all the time, and you like him too, how should you proceed?
If you like a guy who is looking at you, make eye contact and smile. If possible, say "hi" and introduce yourself (if you two haven't met already). Again, none of this is rocket science. It's no different than making friends with a girl. When you meet a stranger who seems nice and who you want to be friends with, you smile, introduce yourself, and ask questions to get to know the person better and try to find stuff in common. Every relationship (aside from totally blind arranged marriages) starts with a friendship.
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Not exactly shy but most of my friends were girls, and I intend to keep it that way. But there was this cute guy in my university who showed obvious signs of interests but it involved more gestures than talking.
As far as playing with a guy is concerned, I wasnt playing with him at all. Wasnt looking for a relationship.
Not that I regret doing what I did, but I was thinking what if a similar situation arrives in the future. Like if you catch a guy staring at you all the time, and you like him too, how should you proceed?
Just smile back at him, say hi and talk to him when appropriate. And then see where things go from there ...
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Ah, I’m same like you, being reserved sucks sometimes. I’ve got a group of girl friends, and some guy friends but that’s it. I’ve had the ‘liking a cute guy at uni’ thing happen with me, but I never acted on it except to fawn over how cute he was 
. I don’t know a proper answer to this because I really don’t talk to guys other than at uni/work, so I have no idea how this works. Lol, some answers would be appreciated
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Just smile back at him, say hi and talk to him when appropriate. And then see where things go from there ...
If you like a guy who is looking at you, make eye contact and smile. If possible, say "hi" and introduce yourself (if you two haven't met already). Again, none of this is rocket science. It's no different than making friends with a girl. When you meet a stranger who seems nice and who you want to be friends with, you smile, introduce yourself, and ask questions to get to know the person better and try to find stuff in common. Every relationship (aside from totally blind arranged marriages) starts with a friendship.
Now here is the catch. We are talking about Pakistani guys here. Guys who grew up in Pakistan.
I went to one of the most affluent schools of Karachi. Kids there spent all their vacations abroad. You would expect such people to be open minded. So, once a guy in school pointed towards a group of girls and said you know they talked to us first on the first day of school. WTH? So what if they talked to you first? They talked to you, didnt send a marriage proposal!
Now this is the mentality I fear. Guys are very clever. They stare at you, smile at you like a love sick puppy but they dont say it out loud. How are you supposed to proceed in such a situation?
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See.. paheli.. its not games.. exactly like gemini from karachi…but in my case..I can talk a lot ..no problem but to the guys I dont like… & the one I like.. I avoid and I tremble..and I avoid it to a point that it finally gets nipped in the bud…(Ah.. the university cute guy thingy..waise…I dont think suggestions might work… I m still gonna act like a dufus… love life has always meant just sitting for hours with girls..and whining..“man he is sooo cute.. he looked like that …he is sooo handsome..intelligent…awwww… khtmmmmm …”(and now I am thinking we are weirdos..)help me… 
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This is a very vague question, and I dont really know how to phrase it correctly, or how to word my thoughts. Suppose you are a guy. And you like a girl. Not necessarily for the purpose of marrying her, but you know you like her. Crush sort of thing. And you want to get to know her better. Now the problem is that the girl is really reserved and doesnt really talk to guys. Maybe she likes you too, but she herself doesnt know how to respond to you because of her limited experience with guys. She rebuffs all your advances to talk to her, knowingly or unknowingly. Will you think she is ignoring you, and back off; or will you keep pursuing her?
Depends on what category of 'like' the girl falls into.
also
how many categories of 'like' the guy has in his stash.
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Sure gives off an image of desperation, and, what's with this Gf/Bf culture in Pakistan?
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So, once a guy in school pointed towards a group of girls and said you know they talked to us first on the first day of school. WTH? So what if they talked to you first? They talked to you, didnt send a marriage proposal!
Now this is the mentality I fear. Guys are very clever. They stare at you, smile at you like a love sick puppy but they dont say it out loud. How are you supposed to proceed in such a situation?
What happened to those group of girls who talked to the guys first? Are they social outcasts? Have they been banished from thei families? Is their future ruined? If a guy has the mentality that you are somehow bad b/c you said "Hi" and introduced yourself first in a public place....then don't you want to know that now so YOU can move on? Or are you ok with liking and marrying guy like that?
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There is one thing to be shy and it's a good quality really. But there is fine difference between..being shy and being tooo shy. It gets kinda annoying if she is not openly talking. For that i mean, straight decent conversation. But again, everyone is different. I usually say, go with a flow and take your time getting to know "shy girls".
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If I really like her I will try to get to know her. If the feelings are mutual she will eventually open up.
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This is a very vague question, and I dont really know how to phrase it correctly, or how to word my thoughts. Suppose you are a guy. And you like a girl. Not necessarily for the purpose of marrying her, but you know you like her. Crush sort of thing. And you want to get to know her better. Now the problem is that the girl is really reserved and doesnt really talk to guys. Maybe she likes you too, but she herself doesnt know how to respond to you because of her limited experience with guys. She rebuffs all your advances to talk to her, knowingly or unknowingly. Will you think she is ignoring you, and back off; or will you keep pursuing her?
I can suppose that ... done :p
But how are you dead sure that she is reserved kind a person and not really ignoring you ? She is probably acting like that just to avoid you ... you know. just make sure this is not the case otherwise you will be struggling for nothing.
on a side note, most of the guys reserve grisl for million of reasons, I on the other hand, like upfront, confident girls. Its just makes me feel that we are the same level.
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Sure gives off an image of desperation, and, what's with this Gf/Bf culture in Pakistan?
What gives off an image of desperation?:S
Culture of bf/gf is prevalent in Pakistan now.
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What happened to those group of girls who talked to the guys first? Are they social outcasts? Have they been banished from thei families? Is their future ruined? If a guy has the mentality that you are somehow bad b/c you said "Hi" and introduced yourself first in a public place....then don't you want to know that now so YOU can move on? Or are you ok with liking and marrying guy like that?
They arent social outcasts but when you hear about stuff like that you dont want anyone talking about you in the same light.
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What gives off an image of desperation?:S Culture of bf/gf is prevalent in Pakistan now.
Always had the feeling, the youth of Pakistan are nothing but wannabe's, girls and guys alike.