You are sensitive, and you expect things. How big a crime is that? Whats the solution out of it?
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Life imprisonment for sure , with at least 10 babies to take care of and a husband to cook for .
Expect things, not babies:smilestar:
Have less expectations.. 
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Oh yes, thats one way to go. But you cant help being touchy can you?
I have always been told I am really sensitive too. Hmm, there has to be a more healthier way of being...
Thinking aloud:
'You' here means everyone, not anyone in particular.
What is up with being sensitive? Ok, well, first of all, I think expectations and being sensitive are two different things. If you're sensitive, then you are more attuned to your emotions - simple as that! You know when you feel a certain way and you can pick on what people may have implied something else, or their tone of voice etc. You may also dislike certain jokes for the same reason. There is no "right" way of being. But it seems like, it might have something to do with being a bit insecure. Hmmmm. Not exactly insecure, but neurotic? Neurotic it is. Women are already more neurotic than men, in general, with the entire evolutionary, "I better find a dude who will take care of the kids and bring home a good hunt," thoughts. And all of the social reasons that make them try to do things "right" all the time - or whatever it is.
Sensitivity is heightened neuroticism (from the 5 big personality traits theory), with agreeableness, as opposed to disagreeableness. This is what makes you sulk when a comment has been made usually, and not get up and attack the person, which is what you'd do if you were high in disagreeableness. Hmmm.
If you were high in disagreeablness and neuroticism, you would be paranoid. You'd have the tendencies to react with anger to the unfavourable situations that you pick up on.
Hmm. What makes someone more disagreeable or more/less neurotic?
It largely is social conditioning and there are benefits for each of those traits.
What can one do to become more/less agreeable or more/less neurotic?
That's an interesting question. Neuroticism is based on an hightened sense of fear. You have to figure out what the common denominator is in all of the situations where you feel sensitive and hurt. Why you feel hurt. From personal experience, as a child, I used to feel hurt when someone ignored me - even if it had nothing to do with me, disregarded what I was saying, talk to me in a not-so-pleasant tone (I still pick up on tone and don't tolerate it). My problem was (may still be) that I reacted strongly to such things and I didn't let go of them quickly enough. No one likes being ignored, but no one, NO ONE in my experience withheld talking to or listening to the teacher. Anyway, you have to figure out the basis for that/those fears. Something like a fear o rejection might lie there. Once you know what it is, you can understand it better and negotiate with the fear to make your life easier.
However, being more perceptive comes with being sensitive. You can use your sensitivities in a more positive direction. Being able to really understand what people mean without too many words, is quite a trait.
Expectations on the other hand, don't seem to have anything to do with YOU, but the way you grew up. For example, you might expect your guy to talk to you every time you call. He probably expects to have a full 8-hour day of work, without interruptions. We make up expectations as we go along in life, we think a certain way IS how the world works and then we expect it to BE that way. Maybe, if we realized, really deeply realized, that things aren't the way we want them to be, just because one person's experience or needs doesn't mold the world or other people. If we realize that, that is how it works with the people you are closest to, too.
/thinking aloud over.
Please excuse the parts that don't make sense, I just woke up.
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***Being touchy or sensitive about things that matter or principles is one thing but being touchy or overly sensitive for the wrong reasons is another !
I know some people who are good at being emotionless or insensitive when the situation required more sensitivity and what happens is that eventually others around them begin to clam up and not involve/discuss with them matters where they know they will just be stonewalled. Then again its the same with those who are touchy , I guess their friends would avoid bringing up subjects with them too for the same reasons.
No-one can strike a perfect balance and we all have our "Moments" ....I guess it all depends on the relationship you share and on how far you can adjust to either personality type.
As far as expectations are concerned....You should only have expectations of yourself and none-other, at least you will strive to live up to them .
Do not set great expectations of others , or you may be disappointed ! ***
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^ sheyn where you been ? 
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If you're sensitive or touchy all the time, to the extent where you're driving people around you insane with your weird demands, I think you need to have a serious look at yourself. You can't be the only one who "feels" things or gets annoyed easily, and 'sensitive' people who think the world does/should revolve around them should really honestly evaluate and correct their behaviour before they lose all of their close friends. One can only take so much.
I'm slightly annoyed with someone right now, so sorry in advance if I'm being too harsh.
You are sensitive,
Most people are sensitive about something or the other.
and you expect things.
*We all expect things. You expect good food from a restaurant. A good movie at the theater. Loyalty from your spouse. Support from your family. You expect things from yourself. * How big a crime is that?
Expectations are a part of human nature and life. How big or small or unreasonable your expectations are....is another issue.
Whats the solution out of it?
Out of making expectations? That's hard. If they're too big or unreasonable, tone it down. If you're expecting from people who normally don't deliver.....then try developing greater self-reliance so you don't have to depend upon them that much.....and keep your expectations of such people on a lower scale. Find people who are more compatible/on the same page as you.
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Im very touchy 
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^ Me too. Very sensitive to touch! 
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Thanks for the input sheyn, curious lady, red velvet and Greysanatomyfan. A friend has broken up a years old relationship. 'Touchy' and 'expecting too much' are the only explanations that come for anything she does. I thought i could glue them back only if i knew a little more. Soo, lets see.