Re: What I want to know is...
I think with the comments, people's personalities coming across. The way they comment online is exactly how they would in real life. Some people are very blunt and do not try to sugarcoat. This is something some girls will understand or like because they share these qualties but other girls will be completely appalled by. Other people claim they like everything and everything is stunning...even if they don't think so. And others such as mA like Spiral and Dubaiwali truly think everything they see is truly beautiful no matter what and are not lying about it. Everyone is different and come from different backgrounds.
I think it is human nature to analyze and give opinions and state preferences in my opinion. It is unavoidable. That is why you hear people talking even at weddings and definitely afterwards. I'm not saying its right... but i'm saying that it should not be taken personally and instead should be taken with a grain of salt. I mean who are they to you and who cares what their opinion is of you??? As long as you feel great and those around you approve of your look... should one REALLY care what others think??? I dont think so.
When later on GupShup IF my wedding pictures surface and people hate on certain things...well I'm just going to be like eh whatever. Each person has their dislikes and likes so that is what is goign to skew their opinion. What I like and find beautiful isn't what everyone in the rest of the world going to find beautiful ... and that is OK :) Comments of any sort should roll off one's shoulder's if they understand and grasp this concept.
I have made comments about certain behavior I do not like at weddings... i find it appalling and horrifying. And I have seen that there have been MUCh MUCH older threads that go beyond this past month on this topic. And I do realize that these are things that most often out of the brides control.. but that doesn't mean I am going to like it any better. Im not even going to like it when /if it happens at my own wedding!!!!
Another example: in another thread I pointed out that I think gajaray on the day of the shaadi with the jewelery, outfit and everything is too much. I posted a picture of what I meant.. but i also said that the brides look would have been flawless and stunning without it). That said - I had to wear gajaray on my own engagement.. my MIL and SIL made them for me. I wore them... I did not like them... and I am sure that when some people saw my pics that I posted on gupshup and facebook ...they did not like it either. It's personal preference girls.. and that is ok.
Reading some girl's comments on GupShup ... i agree with them. Other's I don't - when this happens I just don't say anything. I don't disagree or anything because it just adds fuel to fire and its like whats the point?