What hospitality is expected when you visit a new mum?

[Reha]

@Princess1983

So what do desi folk expect as the norm when visiting a new mum for the first time to give mubarak for a newborn?

Is the new mum expected to provide tea with nibbles/mitaai? Or do you offer something more substantial?

Also, is it traditional for the new mum to give well wishers a gift (e.g. a suit) or is that something that is seen as old skool rather than with the times of today?

Oh not sure if this makes any difference, but I’m in the UK, not sure if desi folk in America expect something slightly different that UK folk.

Ive recently visited a TON of new moms…seems like everyone decided to give birth in the same month…lol.

Anyway, I actually dont expect ANY khatir dari. Rather, I took something substantial (a pan of biryani, salan, etc) to eat at all the homes I visited because I felt like they might need help with the cooking. The new mothers are swamped with visitors and not exactly in the position to be slaving over a hot stove.

Also, I took a gift for the newborn…Ive never heard of the new parents giving gifts to anyone…not even family.