Re: What happens when hubby wants more kids but wife doesn’t?
This is just…I dunno. I know I may get alot of flack for being judgy judgy but I dont’ care…it’s OK that the final choice is w the woman and it’s OK to NOT want one at all and take all precautionary measures before conceiving…
But seriously, so many people are dying for a child, their own or to adopt, that you actually DO get pregnant and consider abortion (or go through with it)…that’s…I can’t even wrap my mind around why a person would do that.
Re: What happens when hubby wants more kids but wife doesn’t?
i don’t think I’m ready for another kid right now, but my husband wants another one soon. Im sooo overworked these days, that i don’t think i could manage another child well enough. BUT if I did get pregnant without planing it I would be most most grateful. Babies are a blessing no matter how much work they are.
Re: What happens when hubby wants more kids but wife doesn’t?
Because not everyone is dying for a child. For example: there are plenty of people who are literally dying while trying to come to the U.S…..legally or illegally. Yet I know plenty of families who voluntarily refused to immigrate to the U.S. despite not having a luxurious life in their native country. Yes, plenty of couples..women…out there would do ANYTHING to have a biological child. However, there are women out there who simply don’t care that much. Everyone has different priorities.
Re: What happens when hubby wants more kids but wife doesn’t?
Sorry Paheli, normally I agree with you on most things, but not in this regard. I know those families too who don’t want to immigrate and guess what? They refuse to immigrate by simply not applying for visas, or entertaining education/jobs/rishtas outside of the country.
Getting pregnant isnt’ the same thing. Like I said, I support and respect someone who doesn’t care for having kids and IS RESPONSIBLE ABOUT IT. aka birth control, abstinence.
Carelessly having sex and getting pregnant and then aborting it because they just don’t want it, nope, that’s totally wrong.
Re: What happens when hubby wants more kids but wife doesn’t?
Getting kids should not be a woman only choice. While it is true it is their body however unless they can reproduce asexually and without men then both have the right to decide.
Re: What happens when hubby wants more kids but wife doesn’t?
Firstly, abstinence is not really an option for a married women. Second, birth control can fail. Many women choose not to go on the pill, IUD’s etc. due to side effects or whatever and only use a condom…which can easily break or not prevent ALL the semen from leaking out. That being said…
I’m not discussing whether this is right or wrong. You initial statement was that you did not understand why a woman would choose abortion when plenty of other women are dying to get pregnant. I simply pointed out the reason behind it. Whether its a woman who used birth control that failed and led to pregnancy…or a woman that chose to have careless sex…in either scenario, these women are not as emotionally attached to the idea of having a biological child as other women who are dying to get pregnant. Whatever their reasons for abortion may be…whether your think its right or wrong…at the end, those priorities outweigh the priority of giving birth to those women…at least at that point in their lives when they’re having the abortion.
Re: What happens when hubby wants more kids but wife doesn’t?
I think if husband wants kids that badly then he needs to be responsible for said kid and show it. I don’t think its fair to just want kids…that’s the easy part. The hard part comes afterwards.
If he wants kids and is pressuring you, tell him I want to see how serious you are about the ones you have. If I feel like I have the help I need to handle more, I’ll think about it. But if you’re relying on me to do all the work then its my decision entirely and its a no.
