Like, we get really concerned (or annoyed) when babies/kids are crying and doing zidd over something. We hastle to do something to shut them up.
I was wondering, what if you let them cry? What possible negative outcomes?
talking about kids above 1.5 or 2 years.
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They"ll become habitual whiners. So it's better to distract them. They cry because they want attention....give them attention by entertaining them.
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My BFF has 4 kids and her kids are alwayssssssss so well behaved. She gets compliments everywhere she goes about how wonderful and well mannered they are. And they really are Mashallah…always polite and courteous. I always joke about how kuch ghol ke pilati hogi but she doesn’t indulge tantrums at all is what I’ve noticed.
Her second daughter was like that when she was younger…my BFF would tell her what she needed to and then ignore her. After a while, she just stopped because she realized it wasn’t working 
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Haha, my blog got you thinking. Ignoring is the best option. Kids get better at realising that screaming hysterically is not going to get things done (two of my nieces do this with the most blood curdling screams ever). But their parents do not have the awareness that they're being played by their kids and ruin whatever calmness I've managed to achieve -_- I as an outsider am not as affected as their parents so maybe that's why it's easier for me.
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Just put yourself in your kids' shoes and imagine how would you feel if you were ignored in that situation. Probably I'm the only weird parent on this site. lol
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Haha, my blog got you thinking. Ignoring is the best option. Kids get better at realising that screaming hysterically is not going to get things done (two of my nieces do this with the most blood curdling screams ever). But their parents do not have the awareness that they're being played by their kids and ruin whatever calmness I've managed to achieve -_- I as an outsider am not as affected as their parents so maybe that's why it's easier for me.
Ah just saw your blog....yeah agree with you. If it's someone else's kid then I'd ignore the crying.
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If my kid was disruptive and being a brat...I would not want to send a message that its okay to do so to get your point across.
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Just put yourself in your kids' shoes and imagine how would you feel if you were ignored in that situation. Probably I'm the only weird parent on this site. lol
The thing is they're not hurt, or upset or hungry or even sad. They're screaming because they want their mother's attention 24/7. We tried this with my cousin whose toddler is infamous in her family for screaming like a jaguar whenever her mother even talks to someone else. The daughter cried hysterically as her mother left the room and then in under a minute forgot all about her and watched dora for the next hour. It's not traumatic at all for her like it is for the mother who kept messaging me afterwards, freaking out.
Obviously I'm talking about kids who have a whole system and routine of screaming and getting their way and not kids who occasionally act out. Like when my niece wants water scream, when she wants to go back home scream, when she wants her mother to stop talking to anyone else scream, when she doesn't want to eat scream. Totally want to high five my niece for making her parents dance at her fingers because if my ears weren't being affected it would be more amusing. :)
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Hmm yeah I know what you're saying....thankfully I've never been in that situation with my kids or even my friends' kids....alhamdulilah.
But I do remember once a bunch of kids screaming and crying (and they weren't even babies) during a Flight to Pakistan via PIA.
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Babies mostly cry if they are irritated about something or hungry etc to inform their mothers that "hey look we need a nappie change, you can do your facebooking, skyping, twitting, instagraming etc after that too". As they can't speak at the age of 1.5-2 years, crying is all they have.
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My best friend has 3 kids...oldest now almost 9 and youngest 4. She has been using this "method" since they were about 3. If they cry or throw a tantrum, she will make sure they're not hungry/hurt etc....and she will make sure they're not doing anything to put themselves or anyone else in danger. But otherwise, she totally ignores the crying/tantrum. The oldest two has figured out that they won't get attention and whatever else they want by throwing a fit, and are very well-behaved. They know that when mommy says "no"....it's a final "No" and nothing is going to change her mind. The 3rd kid is still learning. She will start crying/screaming/throwing a fit.....but stops soon b/c mommy doesn't react the way she wants her to react AND after a while, the kid runs out of energy.
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Ok so for those who ignore the tantrums…what do you do if it’s out in public? Do you still ignore it and ignore peoples subsequent dirty looks? 
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^^Pretty much!!!
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Yep, that’s what my friend does. If it’s a event (like a wedding/bday party) or someplace where the crying/screaming is truly inappropriate, she will physically remove the kid from that location. But otherwise, yea she ignores them. I’ve been with her in restaurants, malls, grocery stores etc. plenty of times when a kid threw a fit. She simply ignores and continues doing what she’s doing…or simply stands/sits there/talks to whoever is with her/gets on her phone etc. She’s very capable of tuning out the screaming as well is other people’s dirty looks. Eventually the kid runs out of energy.
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Well, my sister has walked out of stores several times during meltdowns with the kids in tow. I’ve never actually witnessed a meltdown with my BFF.
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Babies mostly cry if they are irritated about something or hungry etc to inform their mothers that "hey look we need a nappie change, you can do your facebooking, skyping, twitting, instagraming etc after that too". As they can't speak at the age of 1.5-2 years, crying is all they have.
Babies need to be taught and in order to teach them that they are on their own when they're angry or suffering you should ignore them. I don't see much benefit in it but whatever works to shut them up. Yeah.
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Yep, that's what my friend does. If it's a event (like a wedding/bday party) or someplace where the crying/screaming is truly inappropriate, she will physically remove the kid from that location. But otherwise, yea she ignores them. I've been with her in restaurants, malls, grocery stores etc. plenty of times when a kid threw a fit. She simply ignores and continues doing what she's doing.....or simply stands/sits there/talks to whoever is with her/gets on her phone etc. She's very capable of tuning out the screaming as well is other people's dirty looks. Eventually the kid runs out of energy.
I would be too embarrassed to go out with her. Honest.
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The experiment with my cousin is working at least. She tells her daughter if she wants to communicate then she must do in a calm voice. Her daughter screams for 5 seconds but has realised that her mother will ignore her if she does not calm down. An hour long tantrum has dissolved to 5 seconds in two weeks is kind of amazing.
This whole experiment thing started out on a doctor's advice and turns out the specialist knows best.
Now I must plot to get my other cousin to listen to us. Muahahah. I'm so evil for kids.
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My husband and I are actually the kind of the parents that we will sit thru with the kids who’s experiencing tantrum and be like ‘Aajja merra baby’ even its in the middle of a shopping mall, I always try to acknowledge their feelings, I am never ignoring that part, I want to hear from them why they are upset? not by crying but my telling me with words and before I know it, the kid calms down – I only ignore when I know they have done something wrong that’s only then I will ignore the whining because I have to make them realize what you have done is not ok (i.e hitting/name calling)
Distracting works wonderfully too temporarily.
But we are okay with our kids whine with us at home but not outside of the house and I make sure they understand that, but all in all even with this much pampering and us giving in 99% of the time, my kids are very good alhamdulilah. They don’t do zid for someone else’s toys/things, I am so ever grateful for that, however I am brain dead half of the time, breaking every fight, talking thru feelings and playing counsellor takes a toll and is very time consuming; but hey I signed up for this
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Like, we get really concerned (or annoyed) when babies/kids are crying and doing zidd over something. We hastle to do something to shut them up.
I was wondering, what if you let them cry? What possible negative outcomes?
talking about kids above 1.5 or 2 years.
Nothing bad happens they actually learn to not cry for everything they want.
Children's brain start grasping stuff from a very little age like the age you mentioned and it's actually good some of the times to say no to the kids.
I've seen parents doing everything the kid wanted and later on when the kid grew a bit more the difficulties were increased even more.