So my sister just had her future inlaws come by and give a massive tokri of mithai and whatnot for her ‘baat pakki’. They’ve decided to do a small mangni function in July. My parents are totally clueless as this is the first wedding in the family… what happens next? Are we, the girls side, supposed to give them something? Are we expected also to go to their house with sweets? Or just wait until July?
They’ve also only been to our house twice, both times for chai… should they now be invited for dinner?
Re: what happens after baat pakki?
RainbowFluff these customs and traditions vary from family to family. I think it would be better if your parents consult someone in your family (your khalas, mumanis, chachis, phuphos, dadi, nani etc) if they should follow up. They would be able to advise better
what happens after baat pakki?
When i had my 'baat pakki' we had organised a dinner as my family dnt really do engagements. Following week we all went to hubby house, my mum took mithai and a suit for my mil. And that was it tbh! If youre having a engagement party then im assuming youl have to buy something for the boy his ring! And its ip to ur family wat u gift etc, i dnt believe in buying everything and anything for the whole boys family
Re: what happens after baat pakki?
At our baat pakki, both my family and inlaws exchanged gifts and mithai - so my mom gave my inlaws suits and they gave us suits. My mil got me a bunch of different suits (including the engagement outfit) and had matching chooriyan and stuff for 2 of them. She also gave me a small gold set and rings and stuff... His family and mine also gave salami to me and the husband.
On the engagement, my husband and I had decided that we don't want all the gift giving and stuff.. so we exchange a ring (for me) and watch (for him).
Our engagement was smaller than the baat pakki - engagement was just our immediate families... whereas the baat pakki including his phoppos/chachoo/cousins
Re: what happens after baat pakki?
These customs vary from family to family. In my family an engagement party is the usual follow up and this happens within a month of the arrangement (baat paaki). I don't think you are expected to do anything at this point provided that you have a celebration scheduled in July. And since I am the first in my immediate family I think I will be much more clear on this when it happens to me.