Also, if she "begged" for your rishta...then is it because her son was really pushing it? Which would mean he had feelings for you.
Good thing you turned him down. Hopefully he's learned his lesson...or maybe not. A part of me wishes you could remind him of his juvenile ways...so he'll be more careful in the future. (I can understand elem/middle school behaving like this....but guys in a university).
Student life is student life may it be elementary , middle , high school or university. Specially if parents are paying for everything.
I've noticed that sometimes when a guy is attracted to a girl or has a crush on her, he would try to pick on her and break down her confidence bcos he wants others to have a low assessment of her worth...her attractiveness mostly. Its like he is insecure and doesnt want others to find her attractive or herself realizing how attractive se is.
Its funny that if the guy really thought you were unattractive/ugly, he would've probably never bothered picking on you.
Student life is student life may it be elementary , middle , high school or university. Specially if parents are paying for everything.
Mirch, it doesn't matter that parents are paying for everything. I've seen desi guys at the uni level....and they didn't behave in this juvenile manner. As you grow older...you develop some maturity...at least enough to know that there are certain things you don't say to a person's face. If this guy had said "kaali" "moti" behind Inspiron's back...that's one thing. But to say it to one's face.....seriously? Sorry, but the "he's a bacha because maa/baap are paying for his tuition" just doesn't cut it for me.
I've noticed that sometimes when a guy is attracted to a girl or has a crush on her, he would try to pick on her and break down her confidence bcos he wants others to have a low assessment of her worth...her attractiveness mostly. Its like he is insecure and doesnt want others to find her attractive or herself realizing how attractive se is.
Its funny that if the guy really thought you were unattractive/ugly, he would've probably never bothered picking on you.
are you suggesting inspiron to give him second chance?
Inspi already said, "No." Such a response must have hurt the ego of the aunti and her laadla. So, if she were (hypothetically speaking) to give them another chance........the bitterness from her initial response might put a strain on the relationship. What's done is done, Inspi. Move on.
Inspi already said, "No." Such a response must have hurt the ego of the aunti and her laadla. So, if she were (hypothetically speaking) to give them another chance........the bitterness from her initial response might put a strain on the relationship. What's done is done, Inspi. Move on.
And Uzair, why on earth would a guy want to bring her down in front of others if he likes her? Dont guys want what every guy wants?
because he is insecure. deep down he feels she can easily do better than him and has better options. so he wants others to feel she isnt good enough. he wants others to not be interested in her so she will come to him.
Dont guys want what every guy wants?
generally speaking, male attention is more dispersed among women, while womens attention is focused on fewer men.
men tend to find a larger number of women attractive while women find fewer men attractive. It would be much more accurate to say that women want what every woman wants. this reality manifests itself in many ways and has a huge impact on the dynamics of dating, sex, relationships and attraction. this is obviously beyond the scope of the topic at hand and requires a separate thread..perhaps quite a few.
This guy , during a pakistani soceity meet and greet event, infront of everyone said:
How can you be pakistani, you are so ***** dark and ugly, you look like a kaali maa :/
he also used this name behind my back rather than my actual name.
Still think I should give him a second chance?
what do you think? do you really love him? are you sure about his love for you?
it seems that you still considering him. i will suggest you to discuss your feelings with your dad. if you find any positive result then you can also do istekhara and let see what happen.
what do you think? do you really love him? are you sure about his love for you?
it seems that you still considering him. i will suggest you to discuss your feelings with your dad. if you find any positive result then you can also do istekhara and let see what happen.
There’s too much negativity for a second chance here. And why should you give him a second chance?? No way - not now, not ever. Karma sucks - why do I have the feeling that this is not just the end of the road for this guy in terms of what he said to you?
Are you psychoanalyst ?
and why do you want her to accept this rishta?