Misinterpretations are a part of life, Notorious. There are times when I misinterpret what my parents say to me. They are times when my parents misinterpret what I say to them.
And in the future......when your kids become older and naturally more independent in their thinking.......they're going to misinterpret your messages.....and you're going to misinterpret theirs.
Dealing with misunderstandings....and correcting them when they arise is normal in every relationship. BUT it becomes a serious ISSUE **when the other person is **CONSTANTLY harassing you with "misunderstandings" in the form of accusations........because in a situation like this, such a person has an AGENDA on their mind.....and is **NOT **a sincere person. You need to stay away from such people.
BUT not everyone is like that. You will know who your real friends are. True friends will have misunderstandings about you sometimes (that's normal)......but they won't** ALWAYS harass u with misunderstandings. And **true friends will know to back off and stop bugging/accusing you after you've cleared up their misunderstandings.
AVOIDING ALL PEOPLE AND REMAINING COMPLETELY ALONE......is NOT a mature decision or outlook. And it's not healthy for your children if they see that mommy avoids all social interaction. Rather, they need to see how mom handles problems in social settings.
The best thing to do is hang out with people who you are compatible **with and who **respect you........(not those who harass u with accusations). It takes time to find compatible and sincere friends.....but it's not impossible. And you have to be careful with your tongue/words/actions in ALL relationships. Even when interacting with your own children, u have to be careful with your words and actions. That's something every person has to consider in **ALL **relationships. It's even strongly urged in Islam to mind your tongue when dealing with others.
But, seriously Notorious, following ANY extreme (such as remaining completely alone) is NOT wise, N*OT **healthy, **NOT* encouraged in Islam........and just shows that you're running away from life. The key is to be careful......NOT to isolate yourself from others!
A brave woman like u who was strong enough to separate from a toxic husband and family in order to start a new life for her children and herself........did NOT come this far to have such a negative outlook. That only defeats the purpose of all the efforts for independence that you have made.
Find compatible friends, be careful with your words/actions in all relationships, and understand that a reasonable amount of misunderstandings are a normal part of LIFE and takes place in all relationships....even the strongest.