Ok so, as in my previous threads, i was talking about this guy. He has been waiting for a year for me to talk to dad & get him date,etc. Now dad does know about him & me & my cousins have been talking to dad & it’s very much likely that he is going to say yes to meet him & his family & is going to give them a date. But the problem now is that, this guy isn’t willing to wait more. First he said i should give him a date by 28th June & then later i told him i had spoken to dad & stuff like that, now he says i should give him a date by 1st july , i.e., it’s like he is continuing to give me deadlines. I tell him that he has waited so long, so just wait few more days, & he is like, he cannot wait. His parents live in U.S. & he is like, his parents are old & diabetic & they cannot travel more. They are planning to go to U.K., so he says if i give him date before 1st July, his parents will be coming here instead of going to U.K. or else if they go to U.K., they won’t be coming here & so later i shouldn’t blame him if his parents cannot come to meet my parents 
. My friends say, his these talks don’t really make sense! They say what’s problem if they travel & come here to meet my parents after few days. They say perhaps he is just fooling around. They say if next time he kinds of give warning that he will be gone from my life & stuff like that, then i should just say yes to him & agree to it & let him go as he isn’t worth it that i should beg him & all. But iam confused. What you people think? What should i do?
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its like you are not trusting him, then why are you waiting for next time?
I would say, if you cant give him date now, then pay the ticket of his parents for next meeting.
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I'm sorry but it sounds like he's just making excuses to get out of this. He doesn't sound serious about you. If he really loved you and wanted to be with you he'd do anything in his power to do so.
I say let him go and move on!
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uh you don't sound serious.
why can't you give a date by sunday? its been a year for christ sake.
do you know how unreliable YOU sound.
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uh you don't sound serious. why can't you give a date by sunday? its been a year for christ sake. do you know how unreliable YOU sound.
Yes, but iam asking him for few days, not for months that he is behaving like this!
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Yes, but iam asking him for few days, not for months that he is behaving like this!
then this is major red flag. why dont you leave him?
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uh you don't sound serious. why can't you give a date by sunday? its been a year for christ sake. do you know how unreliable YOU sound.
Oh come on she's just asking for a couple of more days. It can be hard convincing parents, esp desi parents. He should understand that.
It's odd that he's giving her deadlines on something as serious as marriage.
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Where do you live?
Where does he live?
Where do his parents live?
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Where do you live? Where does he live? Where do his parents live?
We both live in same country in Middle East. And his parents live in U.S.
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"giving dates" for what? I'm confused.....
Dates for the wedding? Engagement? First time meeting of the families?
If your father is now willing to meet them and give his consent for you to marry, why can't you just say "dad, they are arriving on such-and-such date to meet our family. Please be prepared."
End of story.
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how long have you guys been serious for?
has he been waiting for a year for you to speak to your parents?
if you have't been able to convince your dad for months then how will a few more days make a difference?
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Erm, I don't think he is being unreasonable. Do you know how hard it is for people who have health concerns to travel? Especially international flights? Its not easy and I can see why he would be pushing. Its also expensive.
He's giving you dates and deadlines because he's tired of waiting around for you to make a move. Its been one year and I think he's reached his limit so even a few days sound like you're just being lazy.
You need to respect other peoples' time and effort. Him loving you doesn't mean you start testing him by making him push his elderly parents around the globe at your beck and call. It doesn't work that way.
I don't think you're serious...you're the red flag here...not him.
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Usually it's the guy that is not talking to his parents....
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it means both of you are weirdos. after a year, you don't seem too excited about commitment, and he doesn't seem too bothered by the prospect of moving on.
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Erm, I don't think he is being unreasonable. Do you know how hard it is for people who have health concerns to travel? Especially international flights? Its not easy and I can see why he would be pushing. Its also expensive.
He's giving you dates and deadlines because he's tired of waiting around for you to make a move. Its been one year and I think he's reached his limit so even a few days sound like you're just being lazy.
You need to respect other peoples' time and effort. Him loving you doesn't mean you start testing him by making him push his elderly parents around the globe at your beck and call. It doesn't work that way.
I don't think you're serious...you're the red flag here...not him.
it means both of you are weirdos. after a year, you don't seem too excited about commitment, and he doesn't seem too bothered by the prospect of moving on.
If you guys go through my previous threads, you would know iam not wrong as well :(. I am just helpless! :(
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we've read your threads (or at least I have) and you're not helpless you just don't want to take any action..
you're ruining your future for what? so your dad can degrade you further?
what is your goal in life? and do you really want this relationship because if you do why aren't you taking action? how is a few more days is going to help you?
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we've read your threads (or at least I have) and you're not helpless you just don't want to take any action.. you're ruining your future for what? so your dad can degrade you further?
what is your goal in life? and do you really want this relationship because if you do why aren't you taking action? how is a few more days is going to help you?
How am i not taking actions? I've spoken to dad & so do my cousins, & he is taking time! All he says is wait! I definitely can't do anything without the support of my dad na!
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Whoops thought this was a thread about dreams or some other sort of spiritual decipherment… pardon me. 
Apologies for the interuption please do continue. 
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And moreover, this guy's behaviour has become quite rude with me now. Now if i call him, he usually doesn't answer my calls. Out of my many calls, he would just answer once, and talk for 2 mins & then hang up! And also, he has even blocked my SMS, & i can't reach him through SMS also :( except calls which he rarely answers now. That's what i don't understand that why is he behaving like this! If he doesn't need me, then he should call it off & make it clear. He doesn't do that as well! So what should i do? :(
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And moreover, this guy's behaviour has become quite rude with me now. Now if i call him, he usually doesn't answer my calls. Out of my many calls, he would just answer once, and talk for 2 mins & then hang up! And also, he has even blocked my SMS, & i can't reach him through SMS also :( except calls which he rarely answers now. That's what i don't understand that why is he behaving like this! If he doesn't need me, then he should call it off & make it clear. He doesn't do that as well! So what should i do? :(
if you're fed up with him then move on. Why can't you call it off? Why does it matter if he calls it off or not. Aren't you in this relationship too..?