Chameli--- I think you should try to understand him. For some people its very hard to completely open up to or confide in another. Some people might have had some past relationships that didnt work out, and maybe he needs to get over something.
He seems to care. So I think given enough time, he will be able to share everything.
Everyones afraid of being hurt, esp if they have been hurt in the past. Be there for him and Im sure its very annoying, but try to make him talk to you.
Hi Chameli.
I think that he is afraid to being atached to someone to much and get
hurt again, You tell that he had a relationship earlier but it did'nt work.
And i think he thinks and afraid that it will happen to him again.
That he was so hurt in the past.
See it is tough in a long distance relationship…u have to put in double the effort to make it work.
What you should do is make him feel that you won’t reject him no matter what he tells you. Be ready for things like.. I lied you about my job or u will have to live with my parents or that Ferrari is actually my neighbor’s or I have one kidney it could be anything. It may not even be the ex-girl story that he has given you, nomsayin?
Tell him you want to meet the real him after 2-3 weeks not the representative that he sends. Don’t ask direct questions (a lot of women are quite idiot when it comes to sensitive questions)…do the ground work before you drop the big one :-D..other than that you should be ok..remember, the guy likes u he is on your side..he will open up..don’t rush. :-)
Chameli, if i were you, i would give him time. Be supportive and dont try to pry too much. Earn his trust and I am sure you will since you seem to really want to work this out. Take it slow, slow and steady wins the race :)
ok..sounds like a good idea to take it slow. will try to do so....miss him a lot and dont feel like telling him that..he always become so offensive when i tell him that i miss him..i wonder y:(
he's playing with you. or he is bored of you. or he just doesn't give a damn. sounds like heis more into his ex than you. i would say that beware. he can be just as open to you now, as he would be after he gets married to you. i think you need to think about this stuff..
im not trying to be negative...just...trying to tell you that you need to be careful.
I dont necessarily think he is being selfish: I would also act cautiously if I were in his shoes: I still stick by what I said earlier: Take it slow Chameli, let him know that whenever he decides to share his more personal stuff with you, you will be there, ready to listen to him.
Chameli… Devi, Fayz and Ira had some really good advice there.. if I were you, id listen to them and give him more time… dont conclude anything on your own… some people just take longer to open up.. and openess its not something that happens overtime or u cant just ask them to… it takes patience and i guess honesty and caring from your side too… good luck :k:
not everyone is open and trusting straight off… it takes time
