What does Islam say about sex? I am 16 and I need to know about the birds and the bees.
Anything specific you are inquiring about or just in general, its quite a large subject. Books have been written on the subject. Maybe you can specify a few questions so that some of us could try to give you some answers which are worthwhile to you.
Achtung ;)
What is the age to have sex?
Salman,
Muslims cannot have sex until they are married. The age of marriage, I believe is anytime after puberty. Perhaps somebody else can provide a more accurate age.
Achtung ;)
the age of marriege, for an individual, can best be judged by the individual himself.
no one on this forum is as qualified as your parents are to answer the questions you have regarding sex
it would be better to seek their help to find out what Islam says
Dear Salman:
Your first question
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What does Islam say about sex? I am 16 and I need to know about the birds and the bees.
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is too broad to answer:
Please specify your answer in more details that what do you want to know about sex in Islam, I would try to answer your questions about sex in Islam as long as they are specified.
Your second Question
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What is the age to have sex?
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has been answered by Mr. Achtung clearly and I don't think you need any more details on your second questions.
I think Mr. Slaman did not read my above post
I don't think Salman is satisfied with the responses recd. here; why not tell us what the Quran & Hadiths say re: Courtship/dating, sex & marriage and status of Woman in a marriage and outside the marriage?
I mean - this Forum has been very vocal on the position of Sunni Islam re: Non-Believers; and, that only Sunnis will go to heaven; rest of humanity will burn in hell.
Let's hear your FAULTY & OUTDATED intrepretation on this issue as well!
Abdulmalick,
I'm not sure what you mean. Is there something u want to tell us? Please spit it out so we can discuss it in a (hopefully) civilised manner.
AbdulMalick wrote: "I don't think Salman is satisfied with the responses recd. here; why not tell us what the Quran & Hadiths say re: Courtship/dating, sex & marriage and status of Woman in a marriage and outside the marriage?"
Why don't you start a separate thread regarding these topics, I think it is you who is not satisfied.
AbdulMalick wrote "...this Forum has been very vocal on the position of Sunni Islam re: Non-Believers; and, that only Sunnis will go to heaven; rest of humanity will burn in hell."
To the best of my understanding Sunni Islam does not believe this. Here are a few verses of the Qur'an which deny this belief:
"Lo! Those who believe (in that which is revealed unto thee, Muhammad), and those who are Jews, and Christians, and Sabaeans - whoever believeth in Allah and the Last Day and doeth right - surely their reward is with their Lord, and there shall no fear come upon them neither shall they grieve." (2:62)
"Lo! those who believe, and those who are Jews, and Sabaeans, and Christians - Whosoever believeth in Allah and the Last Day and doeth right - there shall no fear come upon them neither shall they grieve." (5:69)
"Lo! those who believe (this revelation), and those who are Jews, and the Sabaeans and the Christians and the Magians and the idolaters - Lo! Allah will decide between them on the Day of Resurrection. Lo! Allah is Witness over all things." (22:17)
Certain Ulama interpret these verses differently. Personally I feel they are quite clear in their contention.
Achtung ;)
Brother Adbulmalick: Mr. Achtung has answered most of your questions you stereotyped about a particular school of thought in your last post.
As I understood from your post that all you wanted was to tell the others how did you feel about one school of thought in Islam. So I am sure you must be satisfied now after Mr. Achtung's answers. If I am wrong and you actually did want to know the relationships of Muslim Men and Women and you want to know what type of these relationships should be and what are the limits and what are the boundaries, how to react before and after marriage, then please you can ask me all this one by one.
You are most welcome to ask any question about the men and women relationship, in particular, with out telling us how do you feel about the other schools of thought.
If you really want to take part into the discussion about the different schools of thought in Islam, then jump into the discussion, and good luck!!!!!
Brothers Msaqibj & Actung:
I stand by what I said about the position of Non-Believer in Islam. The position of the Fundamentalist Sunni is, to repeat again:
"Only Sunnis are the true believers and will be rewarded with Paradise; rest of humanity are non-believers and will burn in hell".
I also stand by in my statement that, No - the questions posed by Salman re: Sex in Islam has not been answered.
So, again, please, enlighten us, what your intrepretation of Islam is about:
1) Dating and Courtship;
2) How young females should dress and behave around young men;
3) Can Salman, for example, talk to a young muslim girl alone and ask her to go out socially?
4) Is Sex outside of marriage permissable;
5) Punishment for adultery inside and outside of marriage.
I think any young teenage muslim would like to know these things because what they are hearing from 'brain dead' people like yourselves goes into sharp conflict with the modern world.
Abdulmalick
Yours seem to be the typical personality, I always ignore in newsgroups and forums. At best you want to argue for the sake of argument with loads of preconceived misconceptions and at worst you post your opinions guised as facts. People like you have absolutely no clue what they are talking about, yet they are angry at something. If it weren't a waste of time I would invite you to some other unmoderated forum and then show you what 'braindead' actually means.
Let me answer your questions briefly..
3) Can Salman, for example, talk to a young muslim girl alone <
Yes he can talk to a muslim girl alone.
1) Dating and Courtship
...and ask her to go out socially?<
Socially ? Which social system are you talking about ? Islam prohibits people to be in a situation where they are succeptible to losing control and doing what they regret later.
However before sending a marriage proposal, you are urged to meet with the woman and to check out the compatibility, talk at length etc..
2) How young females should dress and behave around young men;<
And how young males should dress and behave around young women.. Islam lays down orders for that too.
4) Is Sex outside of marriage permissable;<
No.
5) Punishment for adultery inside and outside of marriage.<
It's in the Quran.
By the way, adultery and pre-marital sex are different things and are treated differently in sharia.
Finally, try to send your posts in a calm and collected way, otherwise people won't listen to you. It's just natural.
Thanks.
AbdulMalick wrote: "because what they are hearing from 'brain dead' people like yourselves goes into sharp conflict with the modern world."
Listen son, if you want to get the time of day from me, I suggest you learn some respect. I used the Qur'an in my post to demonstrate that your statement was baseless. You have no knowledge of the modern world or Islam, this is evident by your other postings. In your narrow purview, Islam (or what you call 'fundamentalist Islam') is to blame for all of the ills plaguing Muslims around the world. You discount years of colonial rule, oppression, the present globalalization of politics and economics, the IMF and World Bank policies which effect all regions of the developing world (both Muslim and non-Muslim), you discount the cultural, social, political and economic environments which Muslims occupy. Environments which in many cases are not conducive to a healthy life. You fail to see the reasons for the rise of Islamic revivalism. You see Islamic revival as a product based on the ideas of 'fanatics' who are brought up in a vacuum. You are so obsessed with your desire to mark Islam as a scapegoat for all 'problems' plagueing the Muslim world, you fail to see the entire picture. It is in this failure where the weakness of your arguments lies.
I think deepblue answered your questions (perhaps not the black and white answers you were looking for).
Achtung ;)
Achtung - You can teach me respect like Fundamentalist Islam is the panacea of all our problems -- Biggest joke of the decade!
If you 're using Al-Quran to refute, then please Don't! Because, the Al-Quran is a holy book and should not be abused by people like yoursef towards xenophobic ends.
You blame muslim poverty on Imperialist Colonizers; well! Turkey was a Colonizers; had colonies in Middle East & Africa - so, according to your warped logic, Turkey should be flourishing! Yeah, Sure - Cows can fly too!
AbdulMalick: I've posted a reply to your remarks in a separate thread (Islam, Poverty and Colonialism).
Achtung ;)
Almost every religion in the world says that u can only have sex after marriage. Dating I think is your own choice and Islam has no rules for dating.
saallaam
Looks like everyone is confused! SEX, Dating or anyother activity in which one young guy and young girl are alone is prohibited! Its in hadith jaawan larka or jaawan larki cant be alone if they are alone something will happen and that something is SEX ! So dating is also wrong its western concept you pagals off course its not in Islam, but i ll have farther details on this matter....
Thank you!