Dear Mr. Mrs ( my name) and family,
On the auspicious occasion of wedding of our Son Murtaza Khan with Batool Bibi we want you to enjoy a lovely evening with your family at Shalimar Garden Restaurant.
The Nikah will be held at Makki Masjid after Asr Prayer on August 15, 2008 please join us there to make dua for bride and groom.
No Boxed gifts please.
Mr. and Mrs
Imdad Khan
With this wedding invitation there is a printed card which authorizes our family of 5 to have dinner or lunch at Shalimar Garden Restaurant.
I think it is a smart idea , it saves the family of bride and groom from the pains of making so many kind of arrangements. No ?
What do you think ?
P.S: It is a hypothetical scenerio not a real life situation.
Re: What do you think about this wedding invitation ?
ok so on a serious note: although I would love more then anything to receive money instead of tacky gifts.....my mom is totally against printing anything that even hints that our guests do such a thing (give cash gifts).
When my sisters got married they kept what they liked or returned what they did not (if they got a receipt for it)...if there was no receipt they donated it.
Lot of work but our family prefers it that way.
oh and if you are moving out of the town in which you got married....you could always say "instead of buying gifts for the bride/groom please donate money or gift to a charity of your choice".
Re: What do you think about this wedding invitation ?
"No Boxed Gifts" makes a lot of sense if the wedding (or the reception) is being held in a different city/country from where the bride and the groom will ultimately settle down. So they don't have to transport a bunch of big boxes (likely full of lame and recycled gifts).
But I am not sure if giving gift vouchers to people to have a meal is a good idea. I won't do it. The purpose of wedding reception is to celebrate a milestone WITH your friends and family. Its the occasion, the ambiance, an opportunity to meet old friends and family, and best of all, be part of a group dua for the newly wedded couple.
Most people can eat out any time they want. The guests are not likely to be so poor that they'd be ecstatic on receiving a free lunch voucher. This kinda defeats the whole point.
If the bride/groom (their family) wants to save money, then don't invite a ton of acquintences you don't really want to invite. Cut down on lavish food. Don't waste money on huge dowries and gifts. But the least you can do is to have your loved ones WITH you when you celebrate a joyous occasion (and not send them to eat a lunch on their own).
"No Boxed Gifts" makes a lot of sense if the wedding (or the reception) is being held in a different city/country from where the bride and the groom will ultimately settle down. So they don't have to transport a bunch of big boxes (likely full of lame and recycled gifts).
But I am not sure if giving gift vouchers to people to have a meal is a good idea. I won't do it. The purpose of wedding reception is to celebrate a milestone WITH your friends and family. Its the occasion, the ambiance, an opportunity to meet old friends and family, and best of all, be part of a group dua for the newly wedded couple.
Most people can eat out any time they want. The guests are not likely to be so poor that they'd be ecstatic on receiving a free lunch voucher. This kinda defeats the whole point.
If the bride/groom (their family) wants to save money, then don't invite a ton of acquintences you don't really want to invite. Cut down on lavish food. Don't waste money on huge dowries and gifts. But the least you can do is to have your loved ones WITH you when you celebrate a joyous occasion (and not send them to eat a lunch on their own).
On our wedding card, we had a line saying that No arrangement for Gifts was made and the only thing the bride and groom need are duaas, in a roundabt way saying pls don't bring any gifts and no cash either. The ones who did want to give gifts brought gifts when they came to meet us or congratulate us. We as a family felt more comfortable not going through odd gifts and for me I just don't remember who gave what (and I'm too lazy to organize anything to remember) and not to forget the transportation hassle. As for the other aspect of voucher instead of printing RSVP we printed in bold that pls inform us of your attendance and most ppl called to say if whoever was invited was coming or not? And we followed the arab culture and asked that kids not be brought. We had a big hungama at our nikah due to a couple and their kid.... it was horrible and so only kids of the family (both sides) were there in our function, that is how we avoided kids running everywhere and making mess. This is how we did it, and also we kept it really small... abt 120-130 ppl...I think thats really small for a pakistani wedding....
On our wedding card, we had a line saying that No arrangement for Gifts was made and the only thing the bride and groom need are duaas, in a roundabt way saying pls don't bring any gifts and no cash either. The ones who did want to give gifts brought gifts when they came to meet us or congratulate us. We as a family felt more comfortable not going through odd gifts and for me I just don't remember who gave what (and I'm too lazy to organize anything to remember) and not to forget the transportation hassle. As for the other aspect of voucher instead of printing RSVP we printed in bold that pls inform us of your attendance and most ppl called to say if whoever was invited was coming or not? And we followed the arab culture and asked that kids not be brought. We had a big hungama at our nikah due to a couple and their kid.... it was horrible and so only kids of the family (both sides) were there in our function, that is how we avoided kids running everywhere and making mess. This is how we did it, and also we kept it really small... abt 120-130 ppl...I think thats really small for a pakistani wedding....
Hope my sharing helped you in some way....
Sure , sure , good planing and execution of this big event of your life.
Re: What do you think about this wedding invitation ?
it could be that people really dont like boxed gifts at a restaurant to then have to carry them back to their home or where the bride and groom is. & there is nothing that reads that instead give gift money, so presuming anything is not right.
Its sort of even out situation.