What do you think about a Muslim man marrying a Hindu woman?

[Ibn_Sadique]

Re: What do you think about a Muslim man marrying a Hindu woman?

@mdroshan

This is excellent information. I too am hoping that when my daughter says he is a devout Muslim that it just means that he is a strong believer, not a strict practicioner (like I am a strong believer in Hinduism). That should make it easier for my daughter (but very likely his parents are stricter in their practices). I don’t want ask my daughter detailed questions about his practices etc - that would be like an interrogation.
As for the meeting - after I told the daughter that she should wait for two years, she does not think the meeting is that urgent. And I don’t want to push it, in the hope that the whole thing will quietly go away. It sounds quite funny when you think about it. But I am sure the meeting will happen one of these days (I should mention that my daughter is completely independent - financially etc, in fact in a few years I may depend on her more than she does on me).

mdroshan Wishing you peace

It is evident from your posts that you are a very kind, devoted and caring father. Your endeavor to post on this board shows that you are sounding out opinions from Muslims so that you can gather all the information before you can advise your daughter.

I can clearly sense pessimism and anxiety in your posts. Your wisdom and life experience makes you feel this way. Rightly so.

Even though you don’t wish it but deep down in your heart (and mind) you know that daughter is venturing into relationship that will eventually fail. And as a devoted father you don’t want to see your daughter being hurt.

For this relationship to succeed both your daughter and her husband-to-be have to be extremely secular and religion being least of their concern.

@mdroshan

I too am** hoping** that when my daughter says he is a devout Muslim that it just means that he is a strong believer, **not a strict practicioner **(like I am a strong believer in Hinduism). That should make it easier for my daughter (but very likely his parents are stricter in their practices). I don’t want ask my daughter detailed questions about his practices etc - that would be like an interrogation.

Even if your potential son-in-law is “a strong believer, not a strict practitioner” he will try to instil Islamic values and practices in his children.

You as a proud grandfather will love to narrate tales from Ramayana to your grandchildren. Take them to Temple on Hindu festivals and participate in Hindu rituals – This is your fundamental right.

Your potential son-in-law and his immediate relatives may find that very offensive. Muslims (practicing or not) are strictly Monotheists. This I believe is the time-bomb which will trigger bickering and internal strife. I guess deep down this is your hidden fear too.

I really sympathize with you. You without a doubt want your daughter to happy – this wish from the first day you set eyes on her. Without trying to hurt her you are desperately to trying resolve the quandary your daughter (or her fate) has put herself in knowing full well that whatever you do it is a hopeless case.

My advice to you is to meet your potential son-in-law quite a few times to see what makes him tick.

Question him why wants to marry a Hindu girl when his religion expressly forbids it.

Question him about his immediate family’s position on him marrying a Hindu girl.

Question him about your (potential) grandchildren and your relationship with them.

The answers you get will help you understand the situation better.

I just feel sorry for you that you are in such a difficult situation. As a good father you are desperately trying to help your daughter for her happiness (knowing full well that it is a hopeless case).

As the saying goes that Love is blind – and it blinds those who are in Love – they see future as bed of roses – and completely blind to pot-holes full of thorns lurking under the roses.

Wishing you good luck to all