What do you think about a Muslim man marrying a Hindu woman?

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Re: What do you think about a Muslim man marrying a Hindu woman?

@Scherbatsky

Hi mdroshan,

You’re a wise man to do your own research in this matter beforehand. Some of the posters have given you the Islamic perspective here and so here’s a bit of the personal opinion: the beauty of the Pakistani families is that they vary significantly in their views on all trivial things including marrying outside the religion as is the case. Depending on where the family and particularly the guy stands on the religious scale will determine how seriously and how much respect is paid towards this marriage.

The key is that whom Muslims consider to be very religious differs quite a bit from what non-Muslims consider religious - on the whole. For instance, this guy may be classified as a devout Muslim because of his firm conviction in the oneness of God and the belief in the Quraan and that’s where it ends. For an outsider that may be deemed as a devout Muslim. For other Muslims, that isn’t exactly above average devoutness - just the bare minimum. So you’re correct in your conclusion that these matters can only be determined after you’ve met the potential suitor for your daughter.

Culturally speaking, again depending on how patriotic and how strongly the family identifies with being Pakistani, your daughter may or may not have a very tough time being accepted. Most Pakistanis would be okay with their kids marrying any Muslim so long as they are not Black (!). Hindus are probably next on the list as sad as it sounds. You, as the father, are rightful in your concern and for asking these questions.

Best to you and your daughter, let us know how the meeting goes!

This is excellent information. I too am hoping that when my daughter says he is a devout Muslim that it just means that he is a strong believer, not a strict practicioner (like I am a strong believer in Hinduism). That should make it easier for my daughter (but very likely his parents are stricter in their practices). I don’t want ask my daughter detailed questions about his practices etc - that would be like an interrogation.

As for the meeting - after I told the daughter that she should wait for two years, she does not think the meeting is that urgent. And I don’t want to push it, in the hope that the whole thing will quietly go away. It sounds quite funny when you think about it. But I am sure the meeting will happen one of these days (I should mention that my daughter is completely independent - financially etc, in fact in a few years I may depend on her more than she does on me).