What Do You Prefer?,Arranged or Love Marriage?

A suggestion, stop using this nick, come back with new nick and this time just be yourself, try to be nice with all.

Don't write books on your love story and don't portray yourself as psycho.

Be short, realistic and creative in your posts. Talk about normal stuff in life, there is a lot more in life than your love story...

I am sure you be fine.

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How could you have a love then arranged marriage? meaning you fell in love, told your parents, and then they talked to each other and OK'd it? I don't think that's a love arranged marriage. That's straight up love. Unless there's some sort of unspoken mutual infatuation between 2 ppl, and then parents turn that into a rishta. actually that is kind of cute. Kind of like hum saath saath hain :) I prefer arranged- I don't know how i could go about lowering my gaze and falling in love at the same time.

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definitely love. That is, I would need to know that I can love this person; once that bridge is crossed I think the rest would be easy-peasy. :D

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love then arranged...aww how lovely...

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jo bhe ho - iss say kia farak parta hey

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Both

few years apart

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^you mean with the same person right? lol like get arranged marriage, and then fall in love few later

nooo

can't make the same mistake twice

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i'd love to have an arranged marriage, or ill arrange to have a love marriage.

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Love turned arranged. :D Or arranging a love marriage!

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doesn't matter how you fall in love it can happen through arranged and love before marriage what difference does it make sooner or later romance is romance.

can someone please explain their concept of love turned arranged? I don;t know how once you already choose someone, you can have it "arranged". So I don't know what you have in mind with this. At that point it is already a love marriage.

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Arrange marriage ofcourse

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For me personally defo love marriage, but of course everyone's different. My brother went down the arranged marriage route and it suits him fine :)

yeah i dont understand this either...

Not all 'arranged' couples fall into a bond based on deep love after marriage, sometimes the love never comes and they just end up indifferent to each other. Also, The 'plateau' effect is equally likely to happen in arranged as in love marriages. One other thing I've noticed is that when one partner dies in arranged marriages the husband often gets remarried quite quickly whilst in the cases I've seen where the couple had a love marriage maybe 30/40 odd years ago the husband often does not remarry at all. Obviously, love marriages in those days weren't as accepted as they are today so I suppose if a couple went against the societal 'norm' to be together all those years ago there could be a stronger bond.