My mum has been looking for a rishta for me for over 4 years now but no luck. I just dnt feel im supposed to get married. Everytime someone is interested something happens and they say no.
Maybe its just not meant to happen… I hate being in this situation. I cant find that special person, but cnt live my life how I want either.
Just Hate It!!!
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no, plz don't hate it...u must know that there is a "time and place" for everything and when that time comes it'll happen, inshaa Allah. u'll have a good rishtaa soon iA...this is what my heart tells me...Allah aapko ek achchhaa saa nek seerat shauhar de...aameen
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Yeah he's right maybe you're thinking it's easy to say for us because we are not in your situation but it will happen when it is supposed to happen, they say rishtay aasmano pe bante hein, when your mister right would be in front of you it will happen Insha Allah, don't worry.
Wishing you good luck!
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It'll happen when it's meant to happen. Keep praying and continue with the search efforts. Just because something hasn't happened yet doesn't mean that it's never going to happen. I know of girls who have waited/searched for much longer than you have....and eventually they got married. There's a time for everything, hang in there.
Maybe you feel frustrated with how your life is going now...but reflect over your blessings as there are people in worse situations than you. Marriage is not the ultimate goal in life. It's not the be/all-end all either. It's just one part of life. There are many people who are single..........there are people who are divorced..........those whose spouses have died...........they haven't stopped living their life because they don't have a partner. Enjoy your life. Being single has its advantages as well....it's a more carefree time period where you have fewer responsibilities....it's gone when you're married. So, enjoy it while you have it. Also, if you put yourself under this pressure that you absolutely must get married for the sake of getting married.........then that pressure/stress might even prevent you from making the right decision when it comes to a rishta. For example, rushing to agree to a rishta that shows interest...when there may be some harm in the guy, etc. A more relaxed mind makes it easier for one think more clearly.
Maybe also reflect over your rishta search. You might be doing things that are limiting your scope. For example, your expectations might only allow for a smaller pool of rishtay and may need to be adjusted a bit. I dunno. I understand that it's frustrating. But stay strong. InshaAllah everything will fall into place.
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.....There are many people who are single..........there are people who are divorced..........those whose spouses have died...........
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very TRUE...see, i'm 31 and still looking for my miss right and still living...alHamdolillah! Allah has greater scheme of things :)**
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** very TRUE...see, i'm 31 and still looking for my miss right and still living...alHamdolillah! Allah has greater scheme of things :)**
Khalil jiii i m telling u.. ur the most eligible bachelor.. u should just stay single n enjoy it while u can
shaadi stuff is 2 much anyways
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The more you surround the issue of marriage on your head, it will be bother for you. You family will be looking for the best suitable match, that's fine, but don't let the process drag you down. You are no less of a person you were yesterday, maybe more powerful and strong from inside, if you take the matter in your own hands.
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***Marriage isn't Everything !......
It will happen when its meant to happen , so instead of fixating on it why not concentrate on things within your control , career , education etc.
As far as Marriage is concerned , this whole process would help you better identify what it is you want in a partner and how far you can compromise ! ***
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Does all of Allah's creation look alike Cheadle? Nope.
Do we all talk alike? Walk alike? Act alike? Nope.
Then what makes you think any of our paths to happiness or even to that special someone will be identical?
Everyone's fate is different...so is yours. Dont think along the conventional lines...enjoy life and leave things for when they're meant to happen.
As for living your life the way you want...do it. Nothing and no one will stop you unless you let them. There is always a way out of every situation.
Do your best, be open to all kinds of people and keep living your life the way you want.
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but cnt live my life how I want either.
Why not? What's holding you back?
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Thanks for the kind words and support everyone. I know it sounds silly but im not in a rush to get married, its more my family...u knw wot its like they wanna see me settled. but in the process they are crushing my life. Im not allowed to do stuff that I wanna do. I do hate the situation im in, but I knw der are people worse off then me and knw dat im blessed in other ways, but wot can I do im only human and jus feels like the walls are coming in on me.
everyday brings a new day and every day is different...some good...some bad...I suppose thats life...
again thanks for the advice...taken on board :)
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An uncle once was discussing a similiar issue about his friend's daughter. He said there came a time when they finally gave up and accepted that she is not going to get married as she got above the "marriagable" age. But Allah has his plans and no man can come between that. A guy saw this same girl at some party and though the guy was younger than her, he propose marriage to her. Finally she got married when nobody was expecting it.
I am not saying its wrong of you to feel sad but do know there is a god up above who knows what's better for you. So just keep your faith and stay strong :).
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totally agree with you two :k:
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When your time comes it will come!
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We all have our times…
Mostly we spend our lives wating for something… one more item on the list is no great trouble… Besides theres something for everyone… so they say, :cobra: