Re: what do you call your husband?
in addition to it, calling your husband with "tum" doesn't look respectful, i don't know what others might think about it but i don't like to call my husband with tum at all.. :)
It's all about respect. I know the prophet used to have nicknames for his wife. Terms of endearment. Shows love, respect etc. I'd never call my parents, grandparents etc by there names. It's a similar thing.
I can understand where it comes from.
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It's more to do with the respect element, since you wouldn't call your elders, parents & teachers with their name. The respect that a wife should show to her husband has been emphasized to such an extent that Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) said, If (it was permissible), I would have commanded the wife to bow down to their husband.? (Sunan Tirmidhi; this Hadith has been classified as authentic by Imaam Tirmidhi)
doesn't the same extend to husbands too, though? i don't see very many husband's calling their wives "so and so ki amma" or "suniyeh"
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It’s not similar.. Your wording makes it sound like Islamically it’s discouraged to call your husband by his name when it’s not.. Yes, Prophet Mohammed (PBUH) and his wives had ‘pet’ names for each other but this was about having a closer and more loving relationship (the equivalent of us using words like ‘sweetheart’) rather than believing the husband shouldn’t be called by his name to show him respect 
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Calling or not calling your husband by his first name does NOT correlate with showing respect in terms of Islam, this idea is PURELY CULTURAL..
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My mum calls my dad by his nickname, which is commonly used.
My bhabhi calls my bro by his name
I plan to call hubby dear by his name as well
Mujhse nahin hota yeh "suniyeeeee" ..
I didn't say that islamicaly it's discouraged to use names. I said nicknames and the like help love grow. Didnt make it clear in my msg.
It is to do with respect, not using a persons name. And it does happen both ways. Both my parents don't use eachothers names on a daily basis. They do when they have to but it's not something I commonly hear. And I understand this. I've never called my fiancé by his name, it wasn't a conscious thing. One day we were talking and just realised I'd ne'er used it :-/ never needed to. Maybe after we are married I will. I'm not opposed to it and don't think it's necessarily bad but I like this small cultural quirk.
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The relationship of a husband and wife is that of partners. We can 't apply the same rules that we culturally follow when addressing our elders.
To me my husband is my best friend. I don't have an uptight relationship. Does that mean I don't respect him as much as someone who uses 'aap-janaab'? Absolutely not and Allah is witness to that.
So for someone to say that people like me are losing 'barkat' is quite frankly, ridiculous.
I am aware of the Hadith Guriya mentioned and feel that people choose to look at these things so narrow mindedly that they lose the essence of our religions' teachings. Read about the relationship between the prophet (pbuh) and Hazrat Ayesha (ra) you'll understand that marriage is much more than obedience and subservience.
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Well in this day & age I know it's very normal for a wife to call her hubby with his name, but ideally the fact is that jis ghar mein biwi apney shohar ko us k naam sey pukaray, us ghar mein barkat nahin parti.
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When am in a good mood I call him “Jaan” “Baboo”, when he makes me mad I call him by his name..and my tone differs according to how annoyed I am with him 
And he calls me “jaan” “janu” “sweets” and the funniest one so far has been “tweety”, and yes when he gets frustrated withe me he calls me by my name 
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Not married, :P
-DP
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i think thats hindu
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^What is Hindu?
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I call him "ap" not because I have to but because I want to.
When talking about him to a third person, i usually take his name else its just awkward to clarify who i am talkin about.
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^What is Hindu?
The wife not being able to call her husband by his name and yeah, she's right..
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^ohhhh...ok..thank you for clarifying that :)
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Babe or some other term of affection.
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The wife not being able to call her husband by his name and yeah, she's right..
No it's not! It was a cultural thing, not religious. All Hindu women I know of my generation call their husbands by his name.
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We're not married just yet...but anyway I rarely use his name when speaking to him directly...I either use sweetie, babe/baby or a couple endearing nicknames that I've given him. Same with him for me. But if I'm talking about him to someone else, or even around fam, I use his name. We rarely ever communicate in urdu, but a couple times that we have, I've said 'tum'.
I once called him 'aap' because his parents were around and it felt so weird and he made so much fun of it lol. We both don't think respect is shown by aap and no name calling etc. It's all cultural anyway. My mom always called my dad by his name too.
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I like aap in urdu for both ways, since respect is a two-way street. There's no english equivalent though, so I just used to say you.
No matter what we call our husbands however, it's really significant. I remember with my ex-husband, there was a moment where after three years of marriage I said his name in a conversation while calling him, and he got angry and said, "My name is not ___! It's ___" I was devastated. I felt like I couldn't even say his name in front of him. It sounds kind of silly, but it was at that moment that I felt I'd really lost him. Also, we never had any nicknames for each other.
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Nickname is good :)
-DP