What do women bring to the table?

Lifestyle Relationships
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My reply was directed at CM, not you :emmy:

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Re: What do women bring to the table?

meny socha aap ky wisdom sy faida utha loon

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Watch this space!

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Some of the responses from hte "men" (and I use this term very loosely) are truly pathetic.

Not a single man would ever question what their SAHM mother brought to the table because everyone understands that what a mother brings is much more than what a cook/maid/nanny can do for the children.

So what makes your wife, life partner, the mother of your children, any less deserving of love and respect?

I can see why no married man has seriously answered this question, because the question itself is so disrespectful and demeaning to women that any answer, given by women or men, is going to be dismissed

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CM- I can understand your point.

You mean in cases where the men are very succesful and posses thier own thier own car, house, prestige etc.
In this case, well yes if he married an average female, he probably brings to her more than she does to him. And I agree often they bring a lot of attitude and demands, that is a big headache.

A lot of women still bring that kind of attitude and demand stress, inregardless being married to a financially stronger or financially weaker man.

As Ive already mentioned, this would be more relevant for the richer or succcesful men, who can afford thier own maids and so to do household duties etc the housewife would.
In this case, as often is the case in countries like pakistan, where women are housewives, I do think the man brings more to the table.

Coincidentally, relating to your thread, I too also wonder for myself from time to time, that working so hard, facing the daily grind, getting that paycheck at the end of the week, a great portion of which going onto one person, and especially if on leisures/nakharays, is worthwhile.

Relevant to this topic I was recently set up on a date by an elder friend, in which throughout she just wanted to blabber about herself and her passions, especially designer gear- and I got the message this girl is the type that comes with the attitude and the demand.
Very realistically, I dont care how much beauty a girl possesses, a girls leisure expenditures are not worth 80% of my salary.

On the other hand, an excellent wife, that is v.caring, very sincere, smart and attractive is the real catch and in the least, is 'brings something significant to the table'.
We all have emotional needs, and women usually are best at understanding and catering for these, in additon to the physical ones.
The problem is in locating this ideal other half.
A good other half, will care for you in time of happiness and difficulty. The difficult times are real gaugers of your friendships and relatives. In these times the preasumed best of friends /relatives are the ones that let you down, but a good wife is always there striving by your side and routing for you to get through. I guess that is love and loyalty- which no maid, no business partner, no friend would bring.

Illstrating this, I am referring to a well off (rich insimple terms) businessman western dwelling uncle of mine, who caught a serious sicknes,, was bed-ridden and unable to attend to his busines which started going towards deterioration. His wife was the typical, pakistan born housewife, middle classed background with a college level education.
She stuck by his illness for 1 year, she had no previous experience, and took over the running of the business, when no one else was able to or trustlble to do it, and with her efforts managed to keep it stable through her husbands recovery. He was so impressed following this and accordingly increased her 'net worth valuation'.

Such is a good wife.- The one who continues to stick by you and care for you when you least expectant and most needy of it.

the prophetic saying also goes:

'the greatest treasure of yours in this life is a good wife'

Ofcourse- I would agree CM on the search problem of finding that good one.

As previous posters have said. There are also succesful, self-sufficient, good women outh there in the west and back home, if thats your preferance.

It depends on your goals, if your goal is to have a happy and succesful family, then the good wife either staying at home or working, will ensure your house and kids are nourishing in the best manner possible.
If you care about your kids, then you can not underestmate the role and importance of the mother in raising them and educating them-because no other women could do this precious job for your kids, better than a mother.

However I do agree some women have overly stuck up attitudes and demands, and which frankly, irregardless of my earnings, I disprefer.

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^ whoever reads the above post deserves a prize.

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Where is my prize scarface :aq:

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I think first and foremost women should be good mothers - and that's what they bring to the table. If you're religious, Islam teaches us about the importance of motherhood. If you're not, studies show that babies bond quickly and more strongly to their mothers than fathers. Bot parents working with young kids, IMHO, should only be done as a necessity. Someone (and like I said mothers are better at this than men) should stay with kids especially when they are young. I think a lot of guys here are underestimating the value of nice home, which guys lets be honest, the women are better at providing than we are.

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Is my 'single' status a direct result of not owning any kind of table?

Should I buy one if that's the case?

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:rotfl: ..

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Conceded, some women are there just to Drain your wallet and Strain your head.
$$$
And not even that goodlooking once you come to your senses.

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Scarface you are doing yourself and Nutwer a disservice by not reading what he stated.

This knows his stuff. A well balanced point of view for certain.

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excellent post Nutwer :k: a very good read

The problem is, these days… a lot of people have very unrealistic and materialistic views about marriage.

Girls who want men to be accomplished and earing well prior to proposing, dont realsie that things can go downhill anytime… and if they do, what role they need to be playing in the marriage.

Same as men, some men really dont get that girls bring more than sex to a marriage.

When one understands what a good marriage and partnership is about, only then will they be able to have a happy marriage or get into one.

Another thign to note is, a lot of these thigns arent known upfront or prior to committing to the nikkah… these things happen overtime. Love grows, fondness grows.. our responsibility to each other grows and matures. It’s not an overnight thing, and nor is it something someone outwrightly declares when they are wanting to wed

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A reason to live

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Wow Nutwer, I’m impressed.
Well said:cheer:

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Well hehehe. I was planning to go along his lines but thought Cm ko serious advice dedein

A loyal wife/partner gives the kind of unconditional love, The type no other girl can.
Some girls really just want love-And thier willing to give back more in return than u can imagine in.
The one who gets it gets a treasure. The one who gets and lets go, looses everything.

Thats why a hadith says ''although ther would be 70 hoor for men, the mans earth wife will be most beautiful of all the hooresses's'''
^ Its accurate--trust me

Anyway---The attitude is a problem jaanwar mate. agreed. I dont know, maybe they should be told you love them greatly so there is no need for an attitude to get thier way?

darn...I dunno...Chicks

And yes dittoing a previous member--it gives u a reason to live.

Or you'll also just be like the poor soul Imran Hasmi in Awarapan.

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seriously nutwar ???

come onnnnnnnn

what happened to you dude??

You know who you sound like now??

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:omg:

do I need to say more?

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I know. I knew it.

I know....dude...i was just trying to use polite words- ladies r reading...particulars who u know r just waiting her to atomic attack anything.

I aint got energy to argue a 3 page lecture mate- u know what i mean mite aswell perfect de post first time

anyway im sure you agree with the stuff. I thoguht id reply seriously to the topic for once. You neva know O.P cud be serious.

Im out of this zone

last spill of bean---regarding male s,x hormones taking over thier brain....that aint goona change unless u do chemical castration or some other drastic measure...
we..all seriously need help

ok im banned.

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dude see what women on life1 have done to you.

aab kahan chup gaeen heen sab ki sab :ASA: