Re: what do u fnk
There are women in this world whose husbands have passed away.......or who are divorced..........or whose husbands have abandoned them. Have these women stopped living? Have they stopped taking care of their children? Have they stopped laughing and having fun?
NO, they haven't. If the only reason that a woman wants to get married is because she wants a "guardian" in a man or because she wants to feel "complete" or because she can appease society............then these are not the right reasons. What if the "guardian" leave you or turns out to be a jerk, then what? Will you be incomplete again?
Is being married to just anybody...........good enough........if only it will appease everyone else? Does being single make you less of a woman?
No, it doesn't. You marry because you want to marry no because you feel that you have to get married. Focus on yourself. Everyone has a different kismat. People will talk and complain and gossip even if you do get married. They don't spare anyone........not the single........not the married......not the divorced......not the one with children.............not the one who are without children.
As I said earlier, focus on yourself. Pursue a hobby, a career, take some classes in a subject you're interested in, travel the world, develop yourself as a person. DO NOT equate happiness with marriage because there are many women in the world who ARE married but that does not necessarily or automatically mean that they are happy. And if for some reason.......a woman loses her husband.........does that make her less of a person? Happiness is a choice........it's what you make of your situation.
DO NOT dwell or waste your time on the rishtas that have rejected you. Why would you want to settle for some stranger who doesn't want you. IF they're not interested, it's their loss. People reject for a variety of reasons. And in arranged risthas.........the rejection can often times come NOT from the guy..........but from his parents over some stupid superficial reason. Their rejection is not a reflection of your character or worth. When someone rejects you...........that is nothing but their way saying that YOUR LIFE is better off without them.
So concentrate on yourself, pray to Allah to give you strength, patience, peace, happiness, and to provide you a compatible partner. And increase your socializing....that can help in making connections. You can also consider matrimonial sites or matchmakers as well. But......most importantly........understand that there are people in this world who have MUCH LESS than you do. Be grateful for what you have. Be happy and don't let others bring you down.