About a year and a half ago i stopped talking to this guy i loved. Why? He didn’t love me for one. And two when he said he did i knew he was lying so i didn’t want to hurt forever. Now however i am due to get married to someone else and i’m thankful that i have healed and can be truly faithful to my life partner. BUT this previous guy, obviously relaising my importance when i’d left :sigh: calls me regularly, and so far i’ve done the snide thing and forwarded all his calls to my answering machine
Would you guys recommend i talk to him ever? I mean he knows that i’m gona get married OR do you think i should just say Good Bye? Personally, when i give up on a person i totally give up on them. I cut them from them life and although i hurt for months there comes a day when i can truly say that the person has no meaning in my life whatsoever, same with this guy now. What do you recommend i do? And if it is stop talking to him, how? What do i say to him.
What does he want now? You've moved on and if he does want to be friends, will it work with you after your married? Probably not, so there's really no point talking to him anymore. Tell him straight forward how you feel about the situation, and if he has no importance in your life then tell him your priorities have changed. He should get the hint.
Now that you're getting married, I would advise you not to talk to this old dude. He is history. Just stay focussed and keep life simple by looking forward to spending the rest of your lofe with your hubby.
You do not need to give him closure of any sort. Neither do you need to talk to him out of pity or anything. Remember that he was the one who hurt you and not the other way around. Its best to leave bygones be bygones and move on with new life. :)
DD, I’m gonna freak out yaar…ufff, I really can’t figure out why we have so many things in common… ..I can swear that same thing happened with me too. I was in the same situation except for I was not getting married. I just fell outa love for the guy coz he didn’t have the same feelings for me neither did he care much abt me as a friend but he eventually changed…it was so strange, it’s like he turned into a new person! But DD I just kept ignoring him coz I didn’t want him anymore…He tried to contact me every other day but I did not turn to him coz like you, I totally gave up on him. DD you should do the same. It will help him learn a lesson of his life. And don’t worry, it won’t hurt him forever. He will also move on but he won’t hurt any girl again, trust me!
DD dear, he's playing games with you. It hurts his ego that you're getting married to someone else so he wants feel that you still feel for him to some degree. Along with that, he also, naturally, wants to get into your pants. If he didn't want to be with you earlier, he doesn't want to be with you now. Trust me.
But if you can't decide on your own if you want to talk to this guy or not and require recommendations then may be you're not totally over him. Which is not fair to the guy you're getting married to. Get rid of your baggage before you accept someone as a life partner.
..I can swear that same thing happened with me too. I was in the same situation except for I was not getting married. I just fell outa love for the guy coz he didn’t have the same feelings for me neither did he care much abt me as a friend but he eventually changed…it was so strange, it’s like he turned into a new person! But DD I just kept ignoring him coz I didn’t want him anymore…He tried to contact me every other day but I did not turn to him coz like you, I totally gave up on him. DD you should do the same. It will help him learn a lesson of his life. And don’t worry, it won’t hurt him forever. He will also move on but he won’t hurt any girl again, trust me! 
Congratulations sniff.