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i think most girls want a guy who turns them on, plus they can look up to him
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thora sa dimagh
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And yes, rather politically answered El Topo.
Ha! Let me explain, Nutwer. I placed income last because money does not motivate me, not out of political correctness. I have a very edited lifestyle, designer names or jewellery, or any of that nonsense is of no interest. More importantly, I have never eaten what I have not earned and the thought of someone else working hard to buy me stuff I don't need is distasteful, and a little a bit disturbing.
In anycase, I think it is shortsighted of people to look at the person's current income before going in for relationships; wouldn't it be better to look at the person's potential, i.e. do they possess perseverance and the ability to work hard, in order that the two of you can work together in order to achieve whatever lifestyle you desire?
Education. This one was more tricky. Graduating from a university is not the only form of education. I don't need a certificate to tell me someone is smart, I should be able to see it in them.
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some chocolate??
We want what we cant have!
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its interesting how all the guys that have replied think that girls want their money and money only...what i dont get is...these grls do have money (from parents) and most go to a college or are aiming for some sort of career...its not about your money... get over it.
apparently religion is the hardest thing to find these days in a guy... funny how islam was sent to us through a man.
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ur bank balance
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Thats a sensible view EL Topo, and you are so far the sole member to do your ranking :(
People pls remeber the list!
Incircle , we as muslims by default should desire a partner with atleast a somewhat moderate religious level, which if you read my intro was was already an accounted factor.
Regarding religion, I feel in todays day and age, where lifestyle is more demanding, busier and hectic, than the previous, it is accordingly more difficult to reach a high or extreme religious practical level as the predeccesors.
Quite frankly, in the olden days; people did not have such other energy and time consuming tasks as, study, work, career, mortgage, bills, taxes, cars.
They had more time and energy to perfect thier religious level.
Im not saying religion is unimportant, God no, what im saying in todays age, people have the same physical constraints, yet a much greater demand- so although unwished for, comprimises do occur in areas.
Furthermore, You would agree that the same way moderate or lower relgious leveled people appear to comprimise on religious activities, at the other hand, similarly, very religious people often appear to comprimise on essential wordly tasks like work, study, career.
Bottom line: Its hard to be excellent at everything. Although salat is important.
Back to TOPIC:
C'mon... remaining guppans we need your views. Pls rememeber to use the list!
*Get listing! *
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and you are so far the sole member to do your ranking :(
aww, that's a sad smilie; how can people resist answering?
Nutwer, while you wait for more responses, may I ask why you chose those particular attributes to list?
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^ Well...atleast somebody is kind enough
El Topo, i chose those attributes because i thought they were of the mains.
For convinience sake we kept it to ten.
I know all attributes are important - But They are a lot of bewildered men out there, who could help with some direction pointing.
For example men know love, care is important but not how much exactly loyalty is.
Or they have income, education, resources, but have relationship problems because are unaware know love and extra time is also important for women.
ETC ETC.
More views would aid this thread Ladies
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A little bit of this, a little bit of that, a little bit of everything good, the girl around the corner has.
Wishes have no limits, you want something today, get it tomm, end up wishing for something else soon after. The cycle continues. :-)
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Well if your aim is to help the bewildered, then I would say that of great importance is the ability to listen; actually hear/understand what your partner is saying - that goes for women too (yes, fine, that goes especially for women).
Once you have that figured out, all the other attributes fall into place automatically; we inspire those attributes in people and people inspire those attributes in us. And then the emphasis should be on maintaining a balance.
Eh, I may be talking nonsense, am half asleep.
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1.Respecting** -Loyalty,****
2.Character*-Maturity/Openmindness-Confidence/Social skills, *
3.Education-Income
**4.Looks :@:**
5.Caring-Loving
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I think a girl wants to be respected, i.e., if my partner respects me, he will be loyal to me, he will care for me, and would treat me with kindness. For me, these qualities translate into having a good character.
If I were looking for a rishta in an arranged scenario, I would look at it thru the criterion that Hazrat Ali (a.s.) has re-numerated many times, in order of importance:
1. Deen/Religiousness
2. Good Nature (pleasant disposition, kind, generous, patient)
3. Compatibility ("be Kufw of each other")
4. Decent Family (and no, this does not mean $$$)
5. Reason (intelligence, sanity)
and at the end
6. Physical and Mental health (chemistry)
I think this pretty much covers everything. I wish more Muslims would turn to this criterion, as they do not seem outdated at all. :) And this is what I want!
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well in olden days a girl wanted a khaandani rishta
aaj kul ki lerkiyoun ko badaami rishta chahiye hai, badaami means unki ko 20,000 demands hoti haen wo!!!!!!
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1)Respect/Loyality - I would class this as one - one cannot be without the other
2) Loving/Caring/Character/openmindness/Maturity - these are all personality triats - much like the above. **
**3)Education
4)Looks
5) the ability to cope with me
Poor sod ;)
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We seem to be getting somewhere..
One of the most genune few responses P.O.
Looks seems to be commonly ranking lowest. If looks are of less importance to females, then why do they always crave and fantazize about it.
You could argue, so do men, which they do, but accordingly also rank it of high imprtance.
Why isnt the look attribute from females accordingly higher ranked. Its makes them look contradictory.
And I really appreciate the guppans, that do not spare a word, but still check this thread daily.
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I believe certain expectations should be kept before marriage but not too many/much that it hinders your ability to pick a sensible man for you. Less is the best way to go.
Looks don’t matter that much. Character matters more. Also other traits like moral/family values, respect for elders/parents/the girl itself. Stuff like that. Along with that few degrees and a stable job won’t hurt. 