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i like ur idea..
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My parents had a semi-love/semi-arranged marriage, I think I'll have arranged as long as my mom chooses a girl for me and ignores the tranny recomendations my paternal aunties (phupho's) are giving her...
As long as there's no forced marriages both arranged and love should be acceptable..
In my family we have options open for both, if I find a girl my parents will accept her if she's good (not druggy chav off the streets) but if I'm single at 25 my mum will automatically start looking for girls and recommending them, if I like them we'll meet and both have the right to make a 'yes' or 'no' decision.
Ppl automatically assume that arrange=force and the girl and boy have no say in the matter, which is just bollocks and doesn't happen even in the most conservative parts of Pak except amongst a few illiterate retards who want to keep their land in the family or their daughter to marry a rich man so that she can have an easy life..
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theres still plenty of time to that but it shouldn't b totally arranged kids ka personal interest hona zaroori hai n i always feel that boys who marry with their own choice stand by the girl more against their family than those who marries ammi ki choice of gal.atleast that's wat in my case no matter how unfair my inlaws act my husband is always on their side n i don't want this for my daughter atleast.but then every person is diff too.
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Why is there this huge trend of cousings marrying each other in pakistan?? I just dont get it, dont people know it can lead to geneticaly inherited diseases and stuff. Are these kind of marriages common in pak only or is it done elsewhere too? Am I right in believing that most of these kind of marriages are arranged because parents just get tired of looking for matches and use the last available option that being within the family?
yes in pak the trend is more coz its easy to giv ur daughter among ur family rather than strangers.also since theres so much fraud n greed around n ppl with double standards that its better to tie a knot within family.then lots of cousins know each other from childhood so sometimes there r love marriages within family too.
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I want my kids to marry whoever they want… I was thisclose to a love marriage and soon after his death got a freakin arranged marriage (by force), and now happily divorced. Parents don’t always know/do best for thir kids 
… Moral of the story… only you know whats best for you. Don’t do any ‘favors’ or make any sacrifices cuz ur only starting something on a hollow foundation and its bound not to last.
Edit: And just because its a relative/cousin you’re marrying doesn’t mean you’re immune to getting screwed over. My ex husband was my cousin.
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my marriage was arranged. :halo:
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It really annoys me when people bring it allllllllll back to bollywood. You think that is where Heer Ranjha, sassi pano, romeo juliet etc etc etc got it from?
Seriously. 
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^r these true stories or legends?
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I will go with my children's choice and if they are good enough to go with my choice i'll be more than happy but still i will give them choice what kind of bride they want.
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mabrook, either you subscribe to the theory that life follows art, or art follows life.
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I had controversially universally unaccepted love...ended up in more or less accepted marriage.
I would want my kids to find their true love....but I would be reluctant to see them get married under the circumstances we went thru...ie to fight for acceptance. Too hard and its temporary. I would voice my opinions in where I feel they may be going wrong or things they may not be considering...but ultimately decision would be theirs.
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Arranged.
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sometimes they marry within cousins because they have already “set” their kids up from young age 
other times they marry them because people actually fall for their cousins.
and yeah…it leads to “probably” having a disabled child…but if it works out for them…who are we to question right?
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I had controversially universally unaccepted love...ended up in more or less accepted marriage. I would want my kids to find their true love....but I would be reluctant to see them get married under the circumstances we went thru...ie to fight for acceptance. Too hard and its temporary. I would voice my opinions in where I feel they may be going wrong or things they may not be considering...but ultimately decision would be theirs.
You will do the same! At that time what will appear to you the best for your kids won't necessarily be what kids will think best for themselves.
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I was just curious about what people who go through love marriages or arranged marriage want for their kids when they get married? Do most of them want the same for their kids or because of their experience want someting different for them? Anyone have any experience regarding this matter?
all we want in this world is Happiness .. it may be either way . so i don't care as long as my children are happy .. they can go their way .. :)
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I will go with my children's choice and if they are good enough to go with my choice i'll be more than happy but still i will give them choice what kind of bride they want.
Ume-Zafeerah It's easier said then done, Sometime it doesn't happen becoz of family probs But let's hope everything will be ok I have same thing in my mind...