What do arranged couples or love couples prefer for their kids?

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Re: What do arranged couples or love couples prefer for their kids?

@amana

I think the term “love marriage” can be somewhat of a misnomer.** My husband and I did everything according to shariah**, we talked with the intention of seeing if we were compatible for marriage, tried to involve the parents, etc., but are still referred to as having had a “love marriage.”

I think that Islam gives mature men and women the right to choose their own partners, and that it is my right as a parent to suggest people who I think might be suitable, or explain why someone might not be suitable. **I don’t have the right to say no to someone who is a practicing muslim, no matter whether they are black, white, or purple. **

So, a short answer to a very complicated question is that** if my children ask for my guidance, then I will provide it to them. If they say that they will find their own spouse, then I will pray for them to make a good decision.**

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i couldnt have said it better myself.

If my children do everything according to shariah then it is their right to find their own mate. I will only guide them if they ask me. Parents should have limited involvement in finding their childrens mate.

^this is the Islamic way!