Re: What comes first…
I am not skeptical. All I am saying is that question should not be that loaded. To me if guy is spending on his family or not is a bit irrelevant here. Whats relevant for me is the key detail if she told all this to the guy before or not (i.e that he has to take care of the bills or has to allow her to work)
and yes its sort of foreign concept for me as most of the people I know did take care of their wife’s old bills/student loans or their wife worked to pay their bills.
anything that someone cant get does not automatically become chaska. Dont you get form the wording used in OP’s post that what is she expecting as answer?