Wow. Everyone advises their daughters of this? I’ve got to ask my mum about this.
But I still disagree about the wife not telling her husband about her valuables. I don’t see why you would do so, unless you didn’t know the husband/his family that well.
I am not saying that what he did was right. I am totally against what he did - it was wrong. What I said was that the gold is hers, and her family shouldn’t really be asking her what she has done with it.
Yeah, once you get married, forget being idealistic and all–this thread is a reason why she (and other girls in her situation) shouldn’t disclose–he and his family bullied her (yes not talking and giving cold shoulder is also bullying) into giving up what her parents probably spent a lifetime saving up.
^ if I were in your situation I would had a nervous breakdown, I would have just collapsed. That’s probably because I hold my jewelry very close to my heart. I spent years saving up and bought a few timeless pieces.
I can imagine how you feel. But don’t give up on your married life just because of it. Just work on finding more information, ask questions generally at the dining table when everyone is around, so ppl cant dodge the questions as to what happened with the plot on whose name is it etc etc, if it is in the everyone name then ask them write up what was your contribution so it makes things easier 10-20 years down the line.
Do tell your parents. The more people are aware that you have contributed to purchase of land , should the land not be in your or your husband name only, then at least someone else knows about it. Not like you contributed but the land is in the name of your FIL and then your BIL inherits it.