Re: what can i do to make this suitation better?
A lot of girls are given this advise, including me and I do not see anything wrong with it. I would give the same advise to my daughter or to any other girl really. Ok not literally hide them, but keep the exact information vague. And definitely have it in your own locker. No sharing. Atleast all the stuff you get from your parents.
The minute a husband knows the wife has some savings/ jewelry .. that's it!!! Every time a situation arises the wife's jewelry will be the first one to go.
It takes effort to gather jewelry over the years. Even if you do not wear it, you know at the back of your mind that you have some thing to fall back on in dire circumstances. Buying gold and keeping it in the locker is not a waste of money. It is also an investment.
Buying this plot was not absolutely necessary, it wasn't a situation where some one was ill, or they do not have a roof over their head. The husband did it under pressure from the family that too at a whim. That too only after 2 month of marriage.
Did the FIL not know the financial capacity of his own son before buying the property ? Or do you think that it was know ki "bahu sona leke aayi hai" , we can use that.
As to the OP. Well you can't really do much. You're married to him and his family is your family now, so even if they asked you to contribute you wouldn't really have the option of saying no, then it would be like you consider them your own so you have to kind of trust him/them.
Just pray its not a faulty investment and you or at least your husband get something in return.
Wow. Everyone advises their daughters of this? I've got to ask my mum about this.
But I still disagree about the wife not telling her husband about her valuables. I don't see why you would do so, unless you didn't know the husband/his family that well.
Ummm, that sounds lovely and all but I beg to differ.
Most parents spend years and years saving up their gold to give to their daughter. Some pieces may be passed down from generation to generation, so for all those years of hard work to just be taken away so easily once she gets married...no, something is very wrong there. The fact that she gets married doesn't mean that her in laws have the right to her gold, unfortunately in this case they took it from her when there was no need, she didn't want to give it up but they pressured her. That's not right.
I am not saying that what he did was right. I am totally against what he did - it was wrong. What I said was that the gold is hers, and her family shouldn't really be asking her what she has done with it.